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Take the great advice you have been given. Being a Mom at sixteen isn't romantic. Do you think the guy is going to stick around? I think not. He'll be too busy going to football games and College and dating . Wake up and look at what you have said.Quote:
Originally Posted by ScOrPio_95
You think you have all the answers and you know all about raising a child. You're a child yourself and not only are you being reckless your acting like a promiscuous little girl.
He has a kid himself so I don't think that's going to be a problem and just because I didn't wait three months to move on doesn't make me reckless sometimes things don't work and somethimes they do but its my life and I'm going to do what I want and I've raised three babies already so I don't think I know about raising a baby I do and its easier with your own cause you have better bond and I have all my family that's going to be here to help me
I've already talked to him and he said he wants to be in this relationship
Do your parents know you're having sex and not using protection? If this guy has a child , I feel sorry for the poor kid.Quote:
Originally Posted by ScOrPio_95
My point about waiting to get pregnant is as much about your body handling the pregnancy as anything else. Just because you have the ability to get pregnant does not mean you should.
Just because you can get involved with some almost immediately after breaking up with a boyfriend, doesn't mean you should.
One relationship that you should always take time to work on is the one with yourself. What are you involved in outside of a relationship with a boy that helps you feel good about yourself?
I am concerned that you are using this male as a crutch to get over last one. Read some of the other threads on this site and you will see why I advise slowing down and letting yourself heal.
I really do not want to see you make the same mistakes others have especially when there is absolutely no need for you to.
How old is the new boyfriend?
On one post you said you were with a 17 yearold when you were 13? Now you're in a relationship with a guy who has a child.
I would guess he's at least twenty. Am I right?
The new boyfriend is 18 and an great father and I was not trying to get pregnant I'm on the depo shot and like I said I started my period so idkk even if I am I have a doc appt tomrrow
OK you guys can stop hating on me and saying id be a bad mother cause for one I would'nt and two IM NOT PREGNANT I have ovarian cysts.. and who ever said I have stds your totally wrong!
No one's hating on you.Quote:
Originally Posted by ScOrPio_95
You asked for advice and you got it. Unfortunately the advice you received wasn't what you wanted to hear.
A mature person wouldn't have the attitude that people are "hating on me" . They would be thankful that people took the time to give you advice. Whether you like the advice or not.
I don't recall anyone saying you had STD's either.
You really need to grow up before you start having grown up relationships. That means keeping your legs closed until you have the capacity financially, emotionally and mentally to raise a child.
IMO :mad:
Another case of a person wanting her behavior to be justified, not looking for advice.
Another "want to be" Mom who can barely spell, thinks she can provide financially for a child.
And then there's the whole emotional issue.
Sad, indeed.
OP you're a mean little girl! Don't try to justify what you're doing by
Striking out at the those who are trying to help you.
You're acting like a five year old who didn't get a lollipop.
I am not an angry child thank you very much I don't take bull**** from anyone and I stand up for what I believe in and how the hell am I a meann little girl you're the one that said I have stds you shouldn't talk about someone you know nothing about it seems like the poor little babies feeling are hurt cause I spoke the truth!
ScOrPio, whether you take the advice or not is your prerogative, however, I am going to say again that you need to 'slow down' and build a relationship with yourself.
You haven't answered my question about what you do-outside of relationships-that helps you feel good about you. Is there anything?
While it is good to stand up for yourself, there are better ways of doing it. You came here looking for advice, but have become very defensive. You could learn a lot from these posts if you could calm down and read them. You don’t have to agree with everything, but there are definitely a lot of things you can learn about yourself and life from the people here. We all want to help you lead a better life. I think it would help you a lot to read some of the other stories on here by girls/women older than you that are not on the right track and are paying for it now or have in the past.
So many teens are not putting their priorities in the right place. Sure, it is fun to have a boyfriend and it’s tempting to do “adult” things. I understand that. I’m not that far away from my teenage years (28 now). I was lucky enough to have parents that guided me through those years, and I listened to them because I knew they wanted the best for me. I’m not so sure you will be open to what I have to say, but I hope you will at least consider it. At 16, your priorities should be involved around becoming the best adult you can be. That includes getting a good education; developing your belief system; working part-time; developing good relationships with your friends and family; being honest, loyal and dependable – as a start. I understand that you want a good social life, and I understand that is important at any age, but you also need to understand that the decisions you make now will affect the rest of your life.
Having a baby at age 16 is not a great choice, for you or the child. It would affect your schooling and your choices of future relationships. I’m glad it looks like you are not pregnant, and I hope you will take the steps to avoid pregnancy until you are older and in a stable relationship. I know when I was your age I put a lot of time into thinking about the type of life I wanted – which included college, a great career, and eventually to get married and have children of my own. For me, I knew that I wanted to wait until I was much more mature before getting married or having children. We all make mistakes, but the important thing is to learn from those mistakes and make better choices in the future. Part of learning is thinking about what you want and part is listening to others who can help you think of things you may not be aware of yet. There’s no shame in that – you are 16 and have a lot to learn. We all do, no matter what our age.
Very well said.Quote:
ERROR: You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to Just Looking again.
Ever notice the more defiant the OP is the more "mature" he/she thinks he/she is?
I see an attitude here that I can't quite believe - plus she keeps accusing me of saying she has an STD, something I never said.
So - not only is OP defiant, she's a liar.
Moderator - going nowhere? Time to close?
(And mothers in or around Welches, Oregon - lock up your sons OR provide them with very reliable birth control and glue that method of birth control to them. This could be your nightmare tomorrow.)
See now if everyone could be like just looking I would have a problem.and I never said that judykaytee said I had stds kitkat did my point here is I came for advice on my relationship not to be told I'm to young to have a kid when I made it very clear several times I'm not pregnant and seriously I'm on birth control so judykaytee if you don't mind stay out of my business your not mother I came for advice and that's it
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Originally Posted by ScOrPio_95
Don't even PRESUME to direct who will answer you questions and in what manner. When you're a moderator (or even an Expert), then you can try that.
You followed MY post with your STD comment.
And you are right, I'm not your mother. My children can spell and punctuate, don't have attitude and, in fact, are successful, self-supporting, educated professionals. They aren't 16, thinking they know it all. In fact, when they were 16 they didn't think they knew it all.
Once you post "your business" on AMHD it DOES become my business. If you don't want my input, stop posting.
I have asked that the thread be closed.
ScOrPio, I hope you have a great school year.
The consensus advice was to take care of yourself, and slow down with playing adult games so you DOM"T get pregnant, and DON'T GET an STD!
Its your choice to do the mature thing for yourself.
This thread is closed, enough arguing.
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