I don't know what I am doing anymore. I am just going back to NC for my own good and sanity.

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Originally Posted by icalltheshot

I don't know what I am doing anymore. I am just going back to NC for my own good and sanity.

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Stick with it.

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Originally Posted by Kitkat22

You contacted her first.

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The funny thing is, I didn't contact her first. I never called her. I only emailed her when I asked for the money back. She called me a few times, once was to give me back the money the other time it was for other businesses but I always ended the conversation very quickly. Now I think the wheels are coming at me now. I follow NC religiously because I know it set me back everything I do the contact or I hear something from her. She is pretty tough too. She only contact me strictly for business.

I think it best to end any business with her whatsoever.

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Originally Posted by icalltheshot

The funny thing is, I didn't contact her first. I never called her. I only emailed her when I asked for the money back. She called me a few times, once was to give me back the money the other time it was for other businesses but I always ended the conversation very quickly. Now I think the wheels are coming at me now. I follow NC religiously because I know it set me back everything I do the contact or I hear something from her. She is pretty tough too. She only contact me strictly for business.

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Email is a form of contact. Just stay NC and you'll get over tis a lot quicker. Good Luck:)

I am trying to get the money back from her. She owes me 1000 and it has been over a year now. She keeps delaying it which is quite annoying.

Consider it a gift.. you won't get it back.

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Originally Posted by lickemlolly

i agree with the assumption thing...then you took it one step further and actually accused her of lying...double mistake...first three letters in the word assume are what? EXACTLY because thats what you make yourself look like every time you assume...she may have been able to make some calls to get the truck..she could have been telling the truth and they may have been a friend...whats more important is that you two are not together so she is not obligated to tell you anything...i find that as a woman there is nothing more irritating then getting a text message saying you lied about something when you told the truth...because someone perceived it to be different then it actually was...if you did have a chance at being back together...you probably just blew it...

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I emailed her a few days later and said I am sorry for my behavior. I realized that we are not a couple and you have your own life. Anyway, to make a long story short, we talked on the phone and she said the feeling is still there but her priority now is to make money to buy a house and doesn't have time for a relationship. She offered her friendship but I said no. I said I can't be friend since the feeling is there so I said good luck and good bye. She called me a few days later I am not sure why but I didn't pickup the phone.

What I am thinking is, if we can't be together then let move on. I don't want to get strung along. She told me the feeling is still there but I don't buy it. If you love someone it doesn't matter how busy you are you'll make time for them. Back to NC.

I didn't talk to her for a week then she called me and ask me to help her with some advertisement. She said she want to come to my place so that I can show her? Anyway I said "sure when you have time "but then she called again and I didn't pick up. I am thinking, hmm wait a minute, I told her I don't want to be her friend. She called me on Sunday twice I didn't pick up again. So I emailed her on Monday and give her some tips for the ad. She called me again a few times but I didn't pick up. I think if it's something urgent she will leave a message I guess not. Anyway I am doing no contact again. I don't think getting back together is going to work. I broke up with her for a reason and I may forget what when on but I don't think we can get back without solving those problem. I should have told her to stop contacting me but I don't want to be mean. Silence is golden I guess.

Leave the past along. Don't go back down that road. Good Luck

You did well by ignoring her calls, and as for the email to help her as she asked, way to go! Funny how she hasn't emailed back her thanks, or further business questions, but choses to call, Hmmmmm!

But through it all you kept it business and nothing personal, and polite, but unavailable for BS!

My congrats to you for doing the right things for yourself.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Funny how she hasn't emailed back her thanks, or further business questions, but choses to call, Hmmmmm!

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She did emailed back her thanks but she always calls, she rarely text or email. It's her way of saying I got more power than you. I think she probably does since I can't call her out of the blue. I shouldn't be helping her anyway but you know I felt sorry for her and her kids but then again I have to cover my **s too. I told her we can't be friend last time we talked and she agreed with that but then she calls me and ask me for help. Since I am a nice guy I can't just say no. I just have to not pick up the phone and go NC for my own good.

Yes sir.

That's what ex means. Hope you got it now. Anything more will just set you back.
That's why NC is crucial.

The money she owes you, then her wanting your help. C'mon, end this BS game. Its over.

Don't feel guilty about sticking with NC. Its for everyone's own good. Especially yours.

Remember, you were NC for 9 months before you posted...

I dated this new girl on the weekend Friday. We went to eat dinner and then I ask what she wanted to do and she said let hang out so we went for a drink. I took her home after that. The next day I txt her asking what is her plan for today she didn't reply. I called her today but I didn't get a call back neither. My question is how do I know if she's interested. I don't want to act desperate and call her again. Should I wait for her to call me back? From my experience usually when the girl call back then she's interested if she doesn't then I am just wasting my time. Does that make sense? I am out of the dating game for so long so I am losing touch with reality here lol.

Do your own thing, anything you want, even ask someone else out, and have fun, whether the new girl calls or not. Your single, act like it. You have called her twice, that's enough for her, ball is in her court, as far as that goes, but single guys don't worry about call backs, they move right along.

You call the shot, remember?

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Do your own thing, anything you want, even ask someone else out, and have fun, whether the new girl calls or not. Your single, act like it. You have called her twice, thats enough for her, ball is in her court, as far as that goes, but single guys don't worry about call backs, they move right along.

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You are right I am all worked up over nothing. It is my 1st date in 10 months. I was bold enough to ask her out without being rejected. It gives me hope. I don't want to be that guy in swinger lol.

Swinger rocks. Hehehe.

You don't have to be anything you don't want to be.

Just have fun. Be glad. The more dates the better.

Worrying sucks.