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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Being honest is the right approach, it may not be easy, but it is right. At least everyone knows where they stand with each other

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I agree 100%

Dude, if you are not serious please end this early. You will hurt her so much that she! Come on'. Please go through some threads and try to feel those who got hurt from sh*tty excuses from their partners.

Be truthful.

Hi Tantan,
That is right, the only difficult problem being a relative

Hello, I have visited a physicologist dr, she did the Rorschach_test and discovered that I am very excitement person, and worries a lot, it might be the cause of getting in a serious relationship, and she told me that you will have the same problem if you left this girl and went with another girl, but I don't think so :( please advice

Marrying some one you don't want to marry, would make me feel the same things that you are feeling. Trying not to hurt, and disappoint both sides of the family, has a tremendous amount of pressure on you.

You are caught between what everyone else wants, and what you want. A big conflict, and dilemma for sure. Anyone would be excitable, and full of worry also, even your doctor. Now you have a decision to make. I suggest you make it for yourself, and end this inner conflict. Only you know what will make you happy, and what you can live with but for sure you can't please everyone, and yourself.

What do you want to happen, and make it so.

The Rorschach test has limited, non verifiable, limited results. Much is based on the therapists interpretations of the results, and as a stand alone test, is, in my opinion, not accurate enough to assess say, an anxiety disorder. I had to learn how to use this test years ago, and there are far better tests now.

If you feel you are an anxious person, why not consider other types of therapy, The place to start would be your family Doctor, for a referral.

Regardless of what this test shows, if you don't want to marry this girl, don't!
Marriage should not be something you do because your family wants you to do.

Hello, please make sure that I will not get marry until I am 100% sure about my feelings, I need always your help, nowadays when I be with my fiancé everything goes fine, talk, fun, happy to be with her but once I left her, I feel that she doesn't exist in my life, I don't think about her, what is the cause of such feelings??

I think it simply means you don't hate the girl, but simply don't want to marry her, or anyone else right now.

Its really simple, you stand up for what you believe, or you do as your told by your elders.

How old are both of you?

28 and 20, the difference betwee each other is 8 years

I really favor the comments made by Jake2008, as it seems you are tired, depressed and confused, even though you are going for try, this may create circumstances in your future life. You are avoiding to take decision.
Well if I say do what you think is better for you and her future life, leaving her may give you happiness