It really depends on how you broke - and why?

See - when you put too much importance into them you become obsessed... being obsessed is really unhealthy. If you find yourself in this situation you should take a big step backwards.

"she doesn't dominate like she did a couple of weeks ago." - That's being obsessed. No person can handle that pedestal at all. Quite frankly - no one is worth that.

Not my kind of crowd either Val. The throw away relationships. Very common in Chicago.

Well you can tell when people feel better the first thing they want to do is call the ex just to say hello. BAD idea as this is only a fleeting thought from deep inside. Keep taking the medicine(NC) and call me in 6 months. If you were really healed, the ex is the last person you would think to call. That's why I never had a chance to get back with any of my exes, I had moved on.There is a mighty big world out here and just wait until you see it with NEW eyes.

I'd hold off on the "hello." I think you'd be asking for more trouble. There's no practical reason for you to contact her now so don't. If she contacts you then that's different and you can talk to her if you want. But I wouldn't call her.

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Originally Posted by Wildcat21

"she doesn't dominate like she did a couple of weeks ago." - That's being obsessed. No person can handle that pedestal at all. Quite frankly - no one is worth that.

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I was speaking post-break up, she was on my mind a lot after she chose to leave. The break up was her idea, saying she just didn't want to be in a relationship (with anyone, but I didn't and still don't believe that) but you could tell she didn't really want to do it (whether her indecision was due from her truly not being sure or not wanting to hurt me I don't know, but I bet on the latter).

I did the whole pedestal thing. Bad idea. I will take active steps to NEVER do that again. So very unattractive thinking back on it.