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Originally Posted by talaniman

The best way to help addicted people is to leave them alone. you have enabled her enough, and she has to be the one to want help in the first place.

The most you can do is let her go, and keep yourself from being dragged down with her. Any more than you have been any way.

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You cannot try to save the whole world. If this were to get unwanted help and get straight... chances are she would be high again as soon as you're out of sight. She has to want to change.. you can't make her... Sorry.

You cannot help her unless she wants to be helped, she may lead you to think she wants help and as was stated before in this thread the moment you turn your back she will go back to doing whatever she wants, Don't ever lend her any money again, she will possibly only want it to go buy drugs with, really you need to go NC and get her out of your life for good.

I hope you find some peace about this. You have tried and it didn't work. Don't be pulled down with her.

I met a new girl and she is really sweet, but when I'm with her I think of my ex girlfriend. This is so wrong. We are dating now but I don't want to be in a relationship because I'm not ready. I guess I do really love my ex and miss her but it's so wrong! Her sister was at my house yesterday for a birthday party and all I could think about is my ex girlfriend because they look alike!

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Originally Posted by AnthonyR6

I met a new girl and she is really sweet, but when I'm with her I think of my ex gf. This is so wrong. We are dating now but I don't want to be in a relationship because I'm not ready. I guess I do really love my ex and miss her but it's so wrong! Her sister was at my house yesterday for a bday party and all I could think about is my ex gf because they look alike!

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No Contact... It will get easier. You should not be dating a girl unless she know's you're still hung up on you ex. It's unfair to her.

That's not very fair to the new girl, unless your honest about what you're going through.

Not fair for the new girlfriend at all.

Yeah. I told her I don't want a relationship.

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Originally Posted by AnthonyR6

Yeah. I told her I don't want a relationship.

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You're dating someone . Try being alone for a while Find who you are!
Don't let a woman validate you.

Did you also tell her why??

I told her I just got out of a relationship and I'm having fun being single. Being single has change my life. I have met many new people and my friends are there to support me. When I said I met many new people, I met like twenty people in one month, that are now my friend. Lol the best support I have is my best friend who is a girl. She's a great listener and she is very caring.

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Originally Posted by AnthonyR6

I told her I just got out of a relationship and I'm having fun being single. Being single has change my life. I have met many new people and my friends are there to support me. When I said I met many new people, I met like twenty people in one month, that are now my friend. Lol the best support I have is my bestfriend who is a girl. She's a great listener and she is very caring.

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You are going to be just fine... you will... :)

I have to say, I am a bit impressed by your honesty, with yourself, and the people you are dealing with. That alone will carry you far, as you heal, and get your groove back.

We're all rooting for you. You'll do fine...

Thanks for the support. This has been very tough for me and a struggle. This forum have gave me the courage and stenght I need to move on. It's good to know there are so many nice people out there. Hopefully I can get over this quicker then I think. Thanks!

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Originally Posted by AnthonyR6

Thanks for the support. This has been very tough for me and a struggle. This forum have gave me the courage and stenght I need to move on. It's good to know there are so many nice people out there. Hopefully I can get over this quicker then I think. Thanks!

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You found your own strength.. we just helped a bit... You be sweet and keep in touch.

Thanks. I am doing better then before. Having lots of fun and just concentrating on school and my career. Good friends are hard to find, but when you find them, life just got a whole lot better. Thanks everyone for being a friend!

Get rid of her quick man... I know its hard... but it has to be done... keep your distance... eventually you may be true friends with her but emotions between you and her are real raw still... I think she is trying to 'keep you in the pocket' for when she needs you... very similar to my ex... NC and GET AWAY!

After a month of NC my ex girlfriend emailed me. But just to tell me how much she hates me and regret going out with me. Haha lol. Is she still thinking of me? Trying to get my attention? Don't worry, I'm not going to contact her back.

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Originally Posted by AnthonyR6

After a month of NC my ex gf emailed me. But just to tell me how much she hates me and regret going out with me. Haha lol. Is she still thinking of me? Trying to get my attention? Don't worry, I'm not going to contact her back.

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You go guy!! Doing great . Glad you didn't respond. Yay:D