I'm still going to end up trying to talk with her and be friends. Proper friends, not just mutual acquaintances. Unfortunately I think others will try something stupid to sort it all out between us, which I'm worried about :/ but, friendly it is, at least on my side it will be. Her side? Cold and generally not very friendly. Perhaps even pure blanking me.
And if there is a horrible conflict between her and her friends who may be trying to get her to talk with me or sort it out, and they fall out. Then I will purposefully force them to meet so they can make up, because I don't want anyone else falling out, especially not over me!

Regret42,I have looked over your thread and I can't seem to find any referance to your age,I'm sorry if I seem to be mind blind at the moment,but what age are you?

Still in school so you can tell me that this is just a teenage phase or first love never works out how you want it to, there will be other girls etc etc and I'll get over this soon. All seems terribly complex from a kid doesn't it?

Live your life, discover more about YOU and what makes you happy in life. I think I saw Tal say this one time "Love will find you when your not looking for it"

I was 20 when I got with my ex I turn 30 next Wednesday and I didn't know enough about myself. I wouldn't change a thing as I now have 2 beautiful girls that I are my life and soul but I stress I did not know enough about me.

Chin up it will get better. I promise I know ;)

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Originally Posted by Regret42

still in school so you can tell me that this is just a teenage phase or first love never works out how you want it to, there will be other girls etc etc and i'll get over this soon. all seems terribly complex from a kid doesn't it?

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OR, some people can become emotionally attached in a short space of time,its how attached you are will dictate the time it takes to recover,and the steps you take to encourage recovery.

It very much sounds like you have become more attached to her then her to you.

Yes,I asked your age because the post above that reeked of teenage drama...

I'm not dismissing your hurt feelings,nor the confusion your in,but what you can do is NOT get embroiled in the drama,in her friends interfering etc,that comes with being a teenager.

You want to be her friend,a good friend,but you can't just yet because your still emotional attacted to her.

It is terribly complex as you say,there are so many things to factor in as a teenager,there are too many outside influences,and too many opinions on your romance,or now ex romance.

You can't please all of the people all the time,but you can do the right thing by you,and you can protect yourself and your heart from more hurt.

Polite hellos when you meet her and her friends, instead of a huge drama will serve you better.

Haha, huge drama my . There is no drama. The last time I saw her and was in her company I didn't try anything, just got on with what I was doing, no talking, no nothing, (oxymoron there, but oh well, you get my point). Drama is when something happens in my view, the only thing that could amount to drama was people looking back and forth between us in anticipation! Far as I'm concerned, she considers me to be invisible and simply non existent, hurts a bit, but I'd rather have that than being noticed.
And emotionally attached, you're right I am far too attached. I don't like letting things go that I love, even if it was a short period. I'd dearly love to know why, so I can do something about it, but I don't, so I can't.

She's staying round one of her best friends' houses this Friday, that friend also happens to be one of my best friends, and I have an uncanny feeling she's going to bring up the subject of me and the whole week staying together. And no doubt she will inform me of the conversation which follows. An almost annoying yet also loveable habit of telling me everything! So I'm partly apprehensive about that for various reasons. 'spose I shall let you know what happens in a few days time if I can, and if I can't, then you shall have to be kept in suspense, oh my!

Well its been a while since I was on here last and basically the sh!t's hit the fan :(
Kind of.

2 days till I go off for that week with her and 15 or so others. She accepts that we will have to be in the same environment, perhaps working together and communicating. Which is nice to know.
She is worried about it being awkward between us but I don't think it will be awkward unless one of us makes it so, and I sure as hell don't want it to be, but I might by accident because I'm nervous and more than a bit scared!
As to the reason why stuff is hitting fans, she is about to break up with her current boyfriend after about a month together, because she thinks she rushed it and they don't have much in common. Hate to say I told you so :P but I won't say that to her, naturally.
I might ask her if she's all right about that, even though she is going to end it and the guy knows its coming, its still upsetting to break up. At least I think so anyway.
I know this because one of my best friends is hers as well, like sisters they are. So that's helpful I spose, to have someone to keep things calm or encourage communication.
However, this best friend of ours has just been dumped after 10 months, so she is a bit of a mess right now. And over the next week both I and my ex will have to be there for her, and maybe have to work and talk together. I don't know if she will play up the feelings of being broken hearted in order to force us to work together more, I'd prefer if she didn't. Let nature take its course and all.
She seems to be coping with it fine right now, and says that herself, but she also says it will finally hit her over the next week, so maybe she won't have to play it up. I did tell my ex that she just got dumped 8 hours after it happened via text, and said we may have to work together etc. and strangely enough she replied? How odd. Perhaps this will rebuild our friendship. I don't know.
But I do know the next week will be quite complicated.
Things appear to be on the up, for some people anyhow. And if you believe in Sod's law, as I do, then I just jinxed it!

So what ended up happening?

I just read this all! Wow!

Firstly, I'm 18 so possibly around your age, if my boyfriend wrote me that letter I would think he wants me to break up with him! Although I wouldn't be that dramatic about it, I'd want to talk about it!

But do update with this, is really interesting, hope everything is well! Although you may see that you have to make her feel better, she's been a bit crazy, I think she would have to apologise to you too.