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Originally Posted by louise00

thank you for all your help, i thought everyone would be on his side saying i should stop, its nice to know not everyone thinks bad about my job and more people are more open minded now and just see it is a job

thanks

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Glad we could help. Keep us posted as I for one would like to know how it all works out.

Having read the posts I really think that this is a deeper problem, I believe that he has control issues among others. Breaking away now in my opinion would be a wise move. Controlling people have a very narcissistic way about themselves and expect others to fall in line with their way of thinking... that's not a good relationship.

Stringer

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Originally Posted by louise00

i have children i wouldnt tell them or even want them to know.

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Whether the job is good or bad, I think you answer your own question here.

Whether the job is a good one or bad one, she likes it for the time being and a guy a month into her life has no right to tell her where she can work. He is saying to her "do it my way because I can't let you go" what kind of mess is that?
He is a control freak and he only has a toe in the door, what would he be like if she gave in to this.
She needs to lose this guy.

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Originally Posted by hungtoronto

Whether the job is good or bad, I think you answer your own question here.

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The OP's question is about the guy , I'm sure she's not here for us to judge her on her choice of job.

So I think it's a good idea for us to stick to her question , from her last post it seems she's had some good insight from us and is starting to figure out her problem.

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Originally Posted by louise00

its nice to know not everyone thinks bad about my job and more people are more open minded now and just see it is a job

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Sorry but I am just commenting on what she wrote. No one here judge whether the job is good or bad. I think she answered her own question.

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Originally Posted by hungtoronto

Sorry but I am just commenting on what she wrote. No one here judge whether the job is good or bad. I think she answered her own question.

Is there a message in my post to suggest anything otherwise? Did you read something that I can't?

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It's all good Hung :)

Just trying to stay on the topic of the guy.

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thank you for all your help, i thought everyone would be on his side saying i should stop, its nice to know not everyone thinks bad about my job and more people are more open minded now and just see it is a job

thanks

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I am confused here. I don't know if her question is about the guy or if she want to know whether being a stripper is acceptable in today's society.

If the question is about the guy then you guys have already answer it.

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I am confused here. I don't know if her question is about the guy or if she want to know whether being a stripper is acceptable in today's society.

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Actually if you go back and read from the start of the thread again it has been touched , and opinions given on the subject. She responded by stating she was happy that we didn't take his side , or that we all didn't think that her job was so bad . That's how I read it anyway.

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If the question is about the guy then you guys have already answer it.

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Yep I think she's had some great responses.

You sound to me like a really decent, hard working woman who has goals and dreams.

You don't have to compromise yourself, for anybody- not your values, your morals, sense of self, confidence, etc. He (or anybody) has no right to judge you because you strip.

It wouldn't be a problem if you worked at McDonalds. But, he is who he is, and sees this as something less than acceptable, for whatever reasons.

What he doesn't see is you. As a person. Not as a stripper. His idea of who you should be only satisfies his need to feel comfortable with a more 'respectable' girlfriend who isn't a stripper.

His problem, and his loss.

Keep on doing exactly what you want to do to reach your goals, and don't let anybody stop you, or cause you to question yourself and your own worth.

Soon enough babies will come along and the bod goes to he** in a handcart, but for now, make the most of it!

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Originally Posted by louise00

thank you for all your help, i thought everyone would be on his side saying i should stop, its nice to know not everyone thinks bad about my job and more people are more open minded now and just see it is a job

thanks

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I have all kinds of problems with stripping. So that's not the reason I side with you.

He should not be telling you what to do. It's your choice, your life. This man will make you unhappy. You need to find someone who accepts you and is comfortable with who you are and he needs to find someone with his values. It's simple. He's unsuitable.

Everyone has already given you great advice, so I won't go over old ground.

One thing that did strike me in your post when you described your BF though is that it seems he's so much more concerned with himself than with you.

Why would he be so adamant about you changing your job otherwise?

You are very lucky to have strong values and to enjoy what you do. It's a gift. Don't let someone take the shine off that.

The relationship is too young only 1 month old.

Tell him you'll stop stripping if you're still together as a couple after 12 months.

Bingo.