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This is so true, I was and still partly am convinced my ex was my soul mate, but fact is exes wouldn't leave you if it was meant to be. This isn't Hollywood or some cheesy love song, an if someone leaves us, it's time for us to leave them as well. Being friends does not work out until you are completely healed. I recently had a small facebook convo with a girl I dated for a year in highschool, and that was like 4-5 years ago. And it felt good to just catch up, and part ways, no drama, no feelings nothing. Until you can successfully pull that off, stay away and go NC

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Leave her alone!

Interests aren't the hard part I believe that's easy lining that up.. the connection is the biggest thing.. . But ultimately you guys are right.. she made the decision, if it was meant to be and we were what she says we were it never had happened.

Just to add something she said, sort of seems like a control mechanism. . To me tell me what you think. . She said if you care about me enough you'll be my friend, even if you get a new girlfriend I still want you to try and remain in contact as much as you can. .


I've come to the realization she's very demanding for someone who just broke up with me. . Granted I think I was a first massive relationship. . But I think she doesn't grasp what her ultimate decision means. . I do.

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interests aren't the hard part i believe that's easy lining that up.. the connection is the biggest thing. . . .But ultimately you guys are right.. she made the decision, if it was meant to be and we were what she says we were it never had happened.

just to add something she said, sorta seems like a control mechanism. . to me tell me what you think. . she said if you care about me enough you'll be my friend, even if you get a new gf i still want you to try and remain in contact as much as you can. .


I've come to the realization shes very demanding for someone who just broke up with me. . granted i think i was a first massive relationship. . but i think she doesn't grasp what her ultimate decision means. . I do.

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So move on! Good Luck!

thanks kitkat22, its just the enormity of the task is massive. Better to be a robot sometimes = ).

cheers guys, its good to have an outlet for the human washing machine that my life has become.

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thanks kitkat22, its just the enormity of the task is massive. better to be a robot sometimes = ).

cheers guys, its good to have an outlet for the human washing machine that my life has become.

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It's difficult, but time will heal!

Like my ex this girl is playing with your head, she is not interested in you romantically or friendship, she only wants her ego to be stroked a bit, but you can change that, do not respond to her suggestions, stay no contact, then she'll miss you n if she keeps saying sweet nothing in your ear don't fall for it until she's chasing you again, but again maintain no contact. You will know what you have to do when you are healing, remember,she only gets 1 chance to be with u, u can't offer her a relationship anytime soon, be funny,flirt with other girls so your confidence grows and never talk about the past with your ex, if she asks, tell her -- swty that is history and doesn't save the day.

You need to get over this girl, before you start another relationship. Good luck to you and remember.. You are a good person who deserves a woman who will love you as much as you love her. It will happen! Take time and don't go into a new relationship right away! God:) Bless you

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jst like my ex this girl is jst playing with ur head, she is not interested in u romantically or friendship, she only wants her ego to be stroked a bit, but u can change that, do not respond to her suggestions, stay no contact, then she'll miss u n if she keeps saying sweet nothing in ur ear dont fall for it until she's chasing u again, but again maintain no contact. You will know what u have to do when u r healing, remember,she only gets 1 chance to be with u, u can't offer her a relationship anytime soon, be funny,flirt with other girls so your confidence grows and never talk about the past with your ex, if she asks, tell her -- swty tht is history and doesnt save the day.

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Lettaljeff... I should let you know text speak isn't allowed in the posts on this site. I'm not being mean just letting you know the rules.:)

Thanks will remember that

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thanks will remember that

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You are very welcome! Have a great day and blessings:)

Do as your screen name implies... On To The Next One. :)

Looks like your doing good ontothenextone! Keep up the NC... let her chase and let her pursue her friendship so she feels better about herself... but by no means respond. As someone else in the thread said, they only get one chance to be with us. This site is awesome isn't it?

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looks like your doing good ontothenextone! keep up the NC....let her chase and let her pursue her friendship so she feels better about herself...but by no means respond. as someone else in the thread said, they only get one chance to be with us. this site is awesome isnt it?

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Good luck and let us know how it's going!:)

no worries guys. If April 1st wasn't omen enough my mobile died and deleted most of my ex's messages... haha. . And now I'm onto the next phone = ). . I don't know about the one chance thing though, I know a few couples who are married or otherwise who have gone out before(albeit 2-3 years before re-meeting). . But I isn't concerned with that, you enjoy life as I am doing now.

cheers guys

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no worries guys. if April 1st wasn't omen enough my mobile died and deleted most of my ex's messages...haha. . and now im onto the next phone = ). . i dunno about the one chance thing though, i know a few couples who are married or otherwise who have gone out before(albeit 2-3 years before re-meeting). . But i aint concerned with that, ya'll enjoy life as i am doing now.

cheers guys

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Those relationships are few and far between though, careful you don't hold out too much (if any) hope for that. Take care and you enjoy life to man!

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Those relationships are few and far between though, careful you don't hold out too much (if any) hope for that. Take care and you enjoy life to man!

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Good luck to you. Don't you dare put her number on your phone!:)