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Originally Posted by vanheart

The importance of communicating.

All the time.

Are you gonna tell him the truth?

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I am trying all myself to confess this to my husband but unable to do so... right now am in such state where I feel not to talk to anyone.. keep myself all alone and in this state of mind I will not be able to explain him things the way they should be... I need to time.. first I need to deal with my own self I need to deal with my depression and then I can take up this thing... I want to tell him the truth but before that I want to make sure he now understands how much I want our relation... coz till now I never gave him this feel he already has started noticing the changes in our home atmosphere that were made sply for him... I need not much time now just few more days I guess and will let him know...

Im so sorry KMK.

Please seek some professional counseling. It will help you to better understand.

You are responsible for every decision & action in your life. Regardless of anyone else.
Time to really take control of it.

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Originally Posted by vanheart

Im so sorry KMK.

Please seek some professional counseling. It will help you to better understand.

You are responsible for every decision & action in your life. Regardless of anyone else.
Time to really take control of it.

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I do agree that professional counselling would only help me but if at all that would be possible I would have taken up that decision at once... being a student of psychology I know how much helpful it is in such cases.. but its not possible for me to make it for any such sessions... thats the reason am here with my issue... coming up over here has really helped me it was the best source of out let... And specially your suggestions have gave me the courage to make up my mind to confess the truth which am going to do anyway... Thanks a lott Vanheart...

Make the time. "Such cases?" If you are a student in psychology, then you should realize that your "case" is in need of more than online help.

Im not a therapist, but here's how as I see it.

You never got over your ex. Pursued him after 2 years. Still nothing.

Got married against your will. (Was that because of religious beliefs?)

Spent 8 years, had kids.

Had an affair & got pregnant.

Kept it all a secret.

Had an abortion.

For me these are things that you can't rectify, but deserve therapy in order to understand what your life is about. And what your priorities are. To really move forward.

So, these actions no longer hurt you or anyone else that cares for you.

Like your kids.

There's a light at the end of this & a happy life. You just need to take the right steps to find it.

That's going to take commitment, therapy and time.

Start taking responsibility for your actions. No one can do that for you.