Originally Posted by talaniman
Lets not forget that we change as we grow older and realise our needs and wants change also. I have never gone back to an ex, i think because the healing process has you seeing things in a realistic light and you just move on to bigger and better things. But the main point is you grow and become more mature, and handle people and situations better, with less drama. Let face it that 20 year old love is so much different than at 30, or 40. People either grow together , or they grow apart for whatever reason. A lot of people who post here are young with very few life experiences and get devastated by the loss of that first great love. It takes so much time and work to get healthy again. Most young people don't take the time or know how to work on a relationship. Sadly its hard to be friends with an ex, just because of all the feelings that we must overcome, and may not be ready, or able to deal with those feelings for YEARS. I think its vastly more important to get over those feelings, and get back to being healthy, than worrying about getting back with some one who is moving on. Those past experiences teach us how to grow to be better with the next relationship.