Ask Me Help Desk - Going nowhere

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Originally Posted by Kitkat22

You are a good friend and if you can persuade her to stay and listen to the advice,I think she may get out of this relationship.

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I hope she listens

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Quote by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx;
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I hope she listens

It bothers me that she thinks she has to be responsible for him. She sounds like a good person, but he may use that to make her feel guilty.

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

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It bothers me that she thinks she has to be responsible for him. She sounds like a good person, but he may use that to make her feel guilty.

He does...

I love the OP like a sister

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With so many people who care for you self- cuddler please let us help you! XXxPrincess is concerned. Please tell us what we need to say to persuade you to end this relationship.

We may not tell you what you want to hear, but what you need to hear. I for one am going to be here for you just as Princess and the others will be. You are your own person, but don't be anyone's standby.:):):)

Thank you everyone. You don't know how much all of your support means to me. I may love the boy, who is 18, by the way, but I can't take the stress anymore. I officially ended this stuggle. He is going to have to find a way to make himself happy.
And special thanks to xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx. You have honestly helped me through all of this. I love you, sis! I am really greatfull for everyone's advice. I can truly be happy now. ^.^ THANKS!!

You better thank me!

Haha!

TOLD YOU THIS SITE WAS GREAT!

I'm glad you left that loser. He was... ugh

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

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It bothers me that she thinks she has to be responsible for him. She sounds like a good person, but he may use that to make her feel guilty.

I totally agree with that. I was in a relationship like hers for 7 months last year. She had a lot of issues and when we first started seeing each other I wanted to help but no matter how hard I tried she didn't change.. they need to admit themselves that they need to change or else no matter how hard we try we can't help them... so I decided to break up with her but every time I talked about breaking up, she made me feel guilty by telling me that she would cut and try to kill herself.. which I believed cause she already tried doing that a few times. Anyway I am not with her anymore and.. what I really want to say is, hope this guy doesn't use the guilt factor to make her stay in the relationship. Get out of it as soon as possible. It effects you mentally and emotionally.

I think she has found the strength to break free. Anyone who has any kind of problem. XXxPrincsess has been a true friend for her. Glad you got out of a bad situation.

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Originally Posted by self-cuddler92

Thank you everyone. You don't know how much all of your support means to me. I may love the boy, who is 18, by the way, but I can't take the stress anymore. I officially ended this stuggle. He is going to have to find a way to make himself happy.
And special thanks to xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx. You have honestly helped me through all of this. I love you, sis! I am really greatfull for everyone's advice. I can truly be happy now. ^.^ THANKS!!!

Just remember that we are here for you.

I do want to take the time to caution you about one of the very common mistakes in any break up. It may seem easy and 'over' at this moment, but don't get over-confident. Over-confidence can lead to you thinking that you are doing better than you are and that you can allow yourself more contact with him than you should.

You are right that he should find a way to make himself 'happy'. That starts with being happy with himself. I am concerned that he is unstable enough to not think about what HE can do, but, instead, get angry and retaliatory about what he may see as a 'betrayal'. Please be careful. Watch out for any signs that he is not 'moving on'. Do not contact him in any way. IF he threatens to harm you or himself, keep a log and get the police involved.

Take care of yourself. :)