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Originally Posted by chick23

he agreed to not being with other people too! he said he would hate to see me with someone else and there was no way he would be with anyone. so do you think he was lying

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Then the two of you are still exclusive.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Then the two of you are still exclusive.

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Guess I got to tell him that then?

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Originally Posted by chick23

guess i got to tell him that then??

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I guess you'd better. If both of you agreed not to date others, you are exclusive.

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I guess you'd better. If both of you agreed not to date others, you are exclusive.

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Thanks loads

OK we came to a decision and decided we would stay together because we both don't want to be with other people but to just give each other some space as we lived in each others pockets before this! To just have fun together, make more time for our friends and stop acting like a married couple. Good decision??

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to just have fun together, make more time for our friends and stop acting like a married couple. good decision???????

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I don't know if it's a good decision or not. It sounds reasonable and much more emotionally healthy. How does it feel to each of you?

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I don't know if it's a good decision or not. It sounds reasonable and much more emotionally healthy. How does it feel to each of you?

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Well we've both agreed and are happy with the decision! Were both still only 23 so maybe we should just relax a bit more with each other and enjoy each other.

I think if you just balance yourselves with other things besides each other, you stand a better chance of bonding, and having fun, and not burning out.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

I think if you just balance yourselves with other things besides each other, you stand a better chance of bonding, and having fun, and not burning out.

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You I think that was happening we were starting to burn out

Any other tips on how to keep each other on track?

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any other tips on how to keep each other on track?

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Here are a few ideas --

How To Keep The Love Alive In Your Relationship

How often should we talk in a week? Should I let him contact me first the whole time

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how often should we talk in a week? should i let him contact me first the whole time

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Isn't this a mutual decision and a 50-50 proposition? Sure, call him. Some weeks you might talk with each other several times a day, and other weeks, only twice a week. It depends on what is happening in your lives. Short calls are more intense and enjoyable than long ones that can get boring real fast.

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Isn't this a mutual decision and a 50-50 proposition? Sure, call him. Some weeks you might talk with each other several times a day, and other weeks, only twice a week. It depends on what is happening in your lives. Short calls are more intense and enjoyable than long ones that can get boring real fast.

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Yes it is a mutual decision but I don't want to be too forward either

OK I'm confused! Had planned a night of bowling with 2 friends last night!he rang me at work and said oh its snowing bad let the lads know!I said OK but if they can't go will I just call to you anyway and he wouldn't give me a straight answer just kept saying I don't mind. I felt like he didn't want me to! Eventually we al ended up going bowling together had a great evening and he was all lovey dovey with me! When I asked him about it later that night he made an excuse that I thought he was lying about it snowing and that's why he kept saying he didn't mind! Did he want to see me or what like

In light of the outcome, I fail to see why this is a big deal. Maybe I missed something here.

If it's want you want, then go for it my girl. What do you have to loose anyway

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how often should we talk in a week? should i let him contact me first the whole time

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Yep let him contact you first, don't contact him

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In light of the outcome, I fail to see why this is a big deal. Maybe I missed something here.

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I'm just confused on whether he wanted to see me or not! He was acting all cool on the fone but when he saw me he was all lovey dovey

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If it's want you want, then go for it my girl. What do you have to loose anyway

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Confused on whether he wanted to see me or not

Don't start getting all worked up at this point, as his actions were what you wanted right? As you get re- acquainted with each other you will have to develop honest communications with each other, and that can be a slow process. Don't get carried away by the small stuff.

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Don't start getting all worked up at this point, as his actions were what you wanted right? As you get re- acquainted with each other you will have to develop honest communications with each other, and that can be a slow process. Don't get carried away by the small stuff.

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So what you are saying is relax and give it time?