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  • Apr 18, 2010, 07:53 PM
    jbean92

    The rude posy was obviously deleted or something, I apologize for offending you.. my post wasn't directed to you. And I do appreciate your advice
  • Apr 18, 2010, 07:56 PM
    Kitkat22

    How old are you and this guy?
  • Apr 18, 2010, 08:07 PM
    jbean92

    18. I know it's young but all the best couples I've know met at a young age. My parents, grandparents, pretty much my whole family
  • Apr 18, 2010, 08:49 PM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by jbean92 View Post
    18. i know it's young but all the best couples ive know met at a young age. my parents, grandparents, pretty much my whole family

    Give him as much space as he wants. If it's meant to be . All couples are not alike and you should be thinking of College. Don't get married at such a young age or you both will look back and see you wasted the best years of your life.:)
  • Apr 18, 2010, 09:56 PM
    jbean92

    Well I don't plan on getting married any time soon. But he's my best friend.
    I want to give him all the space I can but I'm afraid I'm going to loose him forever. I need to at least be his friend if were not meant to be together. With all the things that we have over come that tried to push us apart... I have a gut feeling were meant to be in each other lives. Even if it's just as friends.
  • Apr 18, 2010, 10:03 PM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by jbean92 View Post
    well i don't plan on getting married any time soon. but he's my best friend.
    i want to give him all the space i can but i'm afraid i'm going to loose him forever. i need to at least be his friend if were not meant to be together. with all the things that we have over come that tried to push us apart... i have a gut feeling were meant to be in each other lives. even if it's just as friends.

    Then give him space and see what happens. Good Luck
  • Apr 19, 2010, 05:01 AM
    talaniman

    If he wanted to be friends with you he would, but you can't make him feel as you do. No one can and a forced friendship is never worth it.

    You have to realize your "Best friend" has chosen a different path, and you must respect that. Who knows what will happen down the road, but for now leave it alone and carry on with your own life and eventually you will make new friends for yourself.

    When the shock wears off, you will see that.
  • Apr 19, 2010, 09:15 AM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    If he wanted to be friends with you he would, but you can't make him feel as you do. No one can and a forced friendship is never worth it.

    You have to realize your "Best friend" has chosen a different path, and you must respect that. who knows what will happen down the road, but for now leave it alone and carry on with your own life and eventually you will make new friends for yourself.

    When the shock wears off, you will see that.


    Don't let this turn into a horrible relationship where you can't even be friends. I can tell you if you keep pursuing him, he will stop being even a friend.
  • Apr 19, 2010, 02:19 PM
    jbean92

    Yeah, were still friends but it's hard acting like I don't care.
    Apparently were "talking" tomorrow
  • Apr 19, 2010, 03:04 PM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by jbean92 View Post
    yeah, were still friends but it's hard acting like i don't care.
    Apparently were "talking" tomorrow

    Good luck! :)
  • Apr 19, 2010, 04:15 PM
    FloridaFisher

    This is a bummer.. I know it is, but you have to listen to these guys and the guy you like. I did all the things that they said not to do before I ever knew this place existed. Well a month after my relationship ended I had been begging her for a chance and never giving her the space she asked for the whole time, and when I asked her why she won't try again she said "because you didn't give me any time at all to think and so I still don't have an answer for you". Days went by and I later asked her if she ever though of giving us a chance.. she again replies "I did, but I'm not sure I want to now". When I asked why she stated it was because I didn't leave her alone and it just proved how much I didn't change.
    The moral of the story.. listen to them.. listen to this guy you like.. He clearly said he had a million things going on and he needed space. You're expecting him to believe you've changed and can give him space while pestering him about being back together and second chances. I know it's hard to see when it's your own problem, but take it from someone who possibly just lost the love of his life and the mother of his child for good by acting stupidly while claiming to have changed. You need space yourself to change and time to think about yourself to be that girl you used to be that he loved.
    Give him space and he'll come back to you if he notices the truth in your change and the girl he once loved. I wish you luck my friend!
  • Apr 19, 2010, 04:36 PM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by FloridaFisher View Post
    This is a bummer.. I know it is, but you have to listen to these guys and the guy you like. I did all the things that they said not to do before I ever knew this place existed. Well a month after my relationship ended I had been begging her for a chance and never giving her the space she asked for the whole time, and when I asked her why she won't try again she said "because you didn't give me any time at all to think and so I still don't have an answer for you". Days went by and I later asked her if she ever though of giving us a chance.. she again replies "I did, but I'm not sure I want to now". When I asked why she stated it was because I didn't leave her alone and it just proved how much I didn't change.
    The moral of the story.. listen to them.. listen to this guy you like.. He clearly said he had a million things going on and he needed space. You're expecting him to believe you've changed and can give him space while pestering him about being back together and second chances. I know it's hard to see when it's your own problem, but take it from someone who possibly just lost the love of his life and the mother of his child for good by acting stupidly while claiming to have changed. You need space yourself to change and time to think about yourself to be that girl you used to be that he loved.
    Give him space and he'll come back to you if he notices the truth in your change and the girl he once loved. I wish you luck my friend!






    You need to let go.

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