Ok day before yesterday after having a phone converstion(we did not talk about us)she seemed sad.
I asked her if she was "ok" and she said yea. Well yesterday I sent her a text and I told her that "im missing you sweetheart! Without you I am not complete.you own my heart. I love you. And I did not get a return text, so after about an hour I sent another text asking if she was "im missing you sweetheart! without you i am not complete.you own my heart. I love you. and i did not get a return text, so after about an hour i sent another text asking if she was " and she text me back and said " yea working" and she text me back and said "only ". i did not respond to that text, because she told me she was working .
a couple hours later she called me and asked me why i asked if she was ok. and i told her i was just thinking of her and thought i would ask. then she said ok i just wanted to why you would ask. no contact since. i have been sending a text at night just before going to bed " and she would reply " saying goodnight and sweet dreams". Well last night I decided not to send a goodnight text, I really wanted to but I was also wondering if she would send me one if she didn't get one from me. Well I didn't get one from her and I have still not had any contact from her. She will communicate with me but it seems only after I make the initial contact, my question is should I just let go and not make anymore contact until she initiates it ?

No, don't make any contact at all! You don't see how annoying your are being to her?

You are going to turn into that psycho ex she tells her friends about

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Originally Posted by Romefalls19

No, don't make any contact at all! You don't see how annoying your are being to her?

You are going to turn into that psycho ex she tells her friends about

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I am not being "annoying to her" she told me that she didn't want me to stop talking with her. And "psycho" doesn't apply to either of us!
There has never been any type of violence or abuse in our relationship, the issues we are dealing with that caused us to be apart is my getting jealous over her exboyfriend calling, and she knows I have never felt any kind of jealousy before so why now is what I must get to the root of so it doesn't ruin our reltionship if we can get through this. I do not contact her at all other than if she contacts me, other than a goodnight text in wich she returns the same, so after not reciving anything from her last night I am not going to make any contact until she initiates it, I will never not respond to her after all I am here trying to get help to save my relationship not sabotage it, I was just confused on how to deal with not continuing sending goodnight text, I don't want her to think that I don't care and have given up by abruptly stopping the goodnight text. So I am going to follow the advice of all of you "great" caring people and not initiate any contact until she does.

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Originally Posted by lostnhurt

I am not being "annoying to her" she told me that she didnt want me to stop talking with her. And "psycho" doesnt apply to either of us!
There has never been any type of violence or abuse in our relationship, the issues we are dealing with that caused us to be apart is my getting jealous over her exboyfriend calling, and she knows i have never felt any kind of jealousy before so why now is what i must get to the root of so it doesnt ruin our reltionship if we can get through this. I do not contact her at all other than if she contacts me, other than a goodnight text in wich she returns the same, so after not reciving anything from her last night i am not going to make any contact until she initiates it, i will never not respond to her after all i am here trying to get help to save my relationship not sabotage it, i was just confused on how to deal with not continuing sending goodnight text, i dont want her to think that i dont care and have given up by abruptly stopping the goodnight text. So i am going to follow the advice of all of you "great" caring people and not initiate any contact until she does.

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UPDATE: Wow she actually called me today out of the blue (made me happy) she asked me what's new, I said well not much what's up with you she said she had a few minutes before she had to attend a meeting at work, and then she asked me "what did you do last night" I told her nothing just watched a movie on the television, (she took me by surprise when she asked what I did lastnight) because normally at night before I go to bed I would send her a text telling her good night and sweet dreams (nothing out of the ordinary) and she would reply with "goodnight".But last night I didn't send one nor did I receive one. So I decided because it is always me to make initial contact I would just let go and not make anymore contact with her. Then we talked a little bit about my work schedule I work (7-7 12 hour shifts) and then she had to go to in to her meeting. I said OK and she said I'll talk to you again sometime. Now my question is with her contacting me is it safe for me to thank that she is thinking about us and should I continue not contacting her and leave it up to her to make contact?

Dude, I am against any kinds of game playing and this pull back, push and wait is a game to me.

Honest expressions of feelings is how you communicate, and let each other know the fears, and expectations you both have after so long being apart.

Why waste time assuming, and presuming, hoping, and wishing, when you can get the facts to make a good decision about her feelings, and motives.

Working together through issues, and problems, is about honest communications, not games.

It is all a game, do not let her take advantage of her feelings,. trust me I've been there and I allowed my ex to ruin my vegas vacation via the phone! Just take a step back and look at the big picture...

You're guessing cause you haven't talked about this.

Listen to Talaniman.

What you want & what she wants and what kind of relationship is in the cards.

Make a plan to have an honest conversation.

Then you both can proceed.