I just wish there was a way for me to get over it because I know in my head I need to move on but in my heart I want it to be the way it was

The way to get over it is listening to your head-not your heart.
Your head knows it's time to let go.

You are correct but u cannot just drop yor feelings at the drop of a hat can you? Especially when it meant so muchto me

No but you need to give yourself the chance to move on-so now would be a good time to drop the hat.

I'm signing off now-if you are in the Brid I think you might be-go out and enjoy Saturday night- come back tomorrow. :-)

I am out tonight and will enjoy myself just wish I could do it more often you know. Thanks for your help by the way speak soon :)

How come I get affected by every little thing that happens to do with my ex? I feel like this pain is never going to go, why can't it just be how it was when I was happy

You must allow yourself to let go of the pain-find something to occupy your mind.
You will only stay stuck in the past for as long as you allow yourself to.

I don't understand how I'm allowing myself to be stuck in the past I want to move on but things keep hurting me and I can't do anything about it

But you can,whenever something hurtful comes up you go and do something that will change you mindset.

But when I'm at work how can I go do something different to change my mindset? She meant everything to me

What's your job like? Doesn't concentrating on work take your mind off things?

I'm good at my job and haven't been doing it for very long but I do get a lot of time to think about stuff

Have you thought about seeing a councilor-actually talking to someone face to face might be a good idea.

I would't know where to start in finding one and can't talk face to face because I always endup breaking down

A therapist is trained to handle that kind of situation.
Try Relate they have offices in many towns on the coast.

But don't they cost a lot of money? Plus I shouldn't be like this over one person they won't want to waste there time

You wouldn't be wasting anybody's time-and don't beat yourself up for feeling the way you do.

Its OK to seek help you know.

I don't know how much they charge-sometimes these things are regulated according to your income.

I think they have an office where you live.

I know there is one in Scarborough.

Its been so long now though since it happened I feel trapped and like I should have forgot about her a long time ago if I ever was going to do it

A little over 3 months isn't all that long. People are different and heal in different ways.

It's a process which takes time and patience.
Keeping busy and setting goals help.

You'll get over it,it takes time,but you,too,will get through this.

U say it isn't that long but it didn't take her long to be with someone else and after all that I did for her