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  • Nov 8, 2009, 06:30 PM
    supermannnnnn
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by bjohnrupp View Post
    How old are you? Im sure she has kissed him...maybe even more...its possible shes been having sex with him. I'm telling you right now disappear and dont talk to her anymore- shes with him now.:(

    OMG listen to john... Your girl is already having sex with him... Trust me... You're the person she comes to as 2nd choice. She is not treating you like a MAN. You are the BACK BURNER. She is disrespecting you as a MAN and you are letting her. You must IGNORE HER starting right now.

    After applying NO CONTACT starting right now, the very 2nd thing you need to do is BETTER YOURSELF as a MAN!

    Learn to dance, learn to cook, WORKOUT, learn new skills, buy new clothes, make new friends, do anything to better yourself.

    Lastly, once you applied NC + bettered yourself = you have just turned the tables on her. You will be winning this game. And you will have played the cards right.

    She will be the one wanting you back. Make her FEEN FOR YOU, until you see it through her actions. NOT WORDS! Only then, it will FINALLY be YOUR TURN TO CHOOSE if you want HER BACK! HAHAHAHA! =)

    Let the fishing line loose, and watch how fast the fish swims towards YOU!

    Pull that fishing line, and watch how fast that fish PULLS AWAY from you!

    Good luck.
  • Nov 8, 2009, 07:04 PM
    bjohnrupp
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by supermannnnnn View Post
    OMG listen to john... Your girl is already having sex with him... Trust me... Your the person she comes to as 2nd choice. She is not treating you like a MAN. You are the BACK BURNER. She is disrespecting you as a MAN and you are letting her. You must IGNORE HER starting right now.

    After applying NO CONTACT starting right now, the very 2nd thing you need to do is BETTER YOURSELF as a MAN!

    Learn to dance, learn to cook, WORKOUT, learn new skills, buy new clothes, make new friends, do anything to better yourself.

    Lastly, once you applied NC + bettered yourself = you have just turned the tables on her. You will be winning this game. And you will have played the cards right.

    She will be the one wanting you back. Make her FEEN FOR YOU, until you see it through her actions. NOT WORDS! Only then, it will FINALLY be YOUR TURN TO CHOOSE if you want HER BACK! HAHAHAHA! =)

    Let the fishing line loose, and watch how fast the fish swims towards YOU!

    Pull that fishing line, and watch how fast that fish PULLS AWAY from you!

    Good luck.

    Listen to me and Superman- We both know from experience!! I'm telling you I was stupid and didn't listen to people at 1st and for 1 1/2 months after she dumped me I'd respond to my ex fiancés texts and so I blew it. Looking back now I wish the SECOND she mentioned going on break I wish I would have started no contact. I'd have her possibly so don't blow it like me.:confused::mad::(
  • Nov 8, 2009, 08:44 PM
    brokenheartls

    Holy.. I'm arab... only 1% of girls have sex here at this age :O
    I'm concerned about her kissing her ex not having sex !
    I'm arab-christian.. we don't just have sex.. girl won't accept it.. 99% at this age are virgins... trust me, I'm from Israel BTW ,
    Now I'm just concerned she will have even stronger feelings for her ex and just kiss him when she sees him... and not tell me :( I'm really afraid this will happen..
  • Nov 8, 2009, 08:48 PM
    supermannnnnn

    OHHH.. LOL.. If your so sure of this , then that's great for you! I tend to think kissing leads to touching leads to sex AS FAST AS you can say 123...

    In America nowadays, kids are having sex as early as 12 years old, 7th grade, jr high school... That's when I lost my virginity...

    LOL. You seem kind of young. How old are you?
  • Nov 8, 2009, 09:26 PM
    brokenheartls

    I'm 18.. she is 16.5 , I need help.. kissing in public won't lead to public sex trust me, I just don't want her to cheat on me..
  • Nov 8, 2009, 09:28 PM
    bjohnrupp

    Broken hearts- just because your girlfriend is Arab doesn't mean she's not having sex. How do you know only 1% of the girls have sex? Why are you so worried about her kissing him? Just move on, move on MOVE ON!!
  • Nov 8, 2009, 09:31 PM
    brokenheartls

    Look I have been awake for 22 hours.. finding an answer to her questions.. while her ex is probably smoking and sitting with hot chicks.. and not caring at all.. and my g.f is peacefully sleeping
    I'm the only one doing the hard work here.. please give me positive answers.. if I get dumped I won't get hurt.. because I already did ;)
  • Nov 8, 2009, 09:35 PM
    bjohnrupp
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by brokenheartls View Post
    look i have been awake for 22 hours.. finding an answer to her questions.. while her ex is probably smoking and sitting with hot chicks.. and not caring at all.. and my g.f is peacefully sleeping
    im the only one doing the hard work here.. please give me positive answers.. if i get dumped i wont get hurt.. because i already did ;)

    Were all giving you great advice. Do you want us to sugarcoat everything and just tell you what you want to hear? You can do whatever you want but I wish I listened to everyone else when I had my chance. I didn't and I got burned real bad. You have one chance- don't blow it.
  • Nov 8, 2009, 09:41 PM
    brokenheartls

    I'm really glad you good people helped me and I thank you a lot , I just want positive answers... my heart is already broken..
    So I won't get hurt a lot if she dumps me although I love her a lot!
    I just want her to do the right thing
  • Nov 8, 2009, 09:47 PM
    bjohnrupp

    She already did dump you- she's trying to let you down easy. Listen man- you will find someone eventually... you are still very young!
  • Nov 8, 2009, 10:15 PM
    supermannnnnn
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by brokenheartls View Post
    look i have been awake for 22 hours.. finding an answer to her questions.. while her ex is probably smoking and sitting with hot chicks.. and not caring at all.. and my g.f is peacefully sleeping
    im the only one doing the hard work here.. please give me positive answers.. if i get dumped i wont get hurt.. because i already did ;)


    Like john said. If you are here looking for people to sympathize with you , then you are on the wrong forum.

    If you want REAL answers then we already told you what to do.

    Listen to what you said...

    1) That other guy smoking , sitting with hot chicks...

    2) You GF doesn't even care and is SLEEPING.

    3) You are on this forum, crying and sobbing, and heartbroken...

    I will tell you something and I WILL NOT sugar coat it.

    You are the one being played! LOL..

    1) That other guy is the ALPHA MALE! With the hot chicks because he understands how to play. We already taught you what to do to beat this other guy... Or at least have the BEST CHANCE at it. We taught you how to become Alpha.

    2) Your GF could care less about you and is peacefully , carelessly, sleeping! LOL... You are not her priority!

    3) You are here, all sad... Is that acting like a REAL MAN??

    You answer this question.

    Good Luck.
  • Nov 8, 2009, 10:28 PM
    bjohnrupp

    Listen dude- Superman is right- she could care less about you anymore. Don't feel bad- our ex'es could care less about us at the end. As soon as you could drill this is your head you can start to move on... right now she's playing you bad. I got played because I was a wuss that didn't know better.

    I know you're hurt but there's nothing you could do or say to get her back. You're pushed all the way down to the lowest form of friend there is. That's what my ex did to me- all I was good enough for was a text once a week after she dumped me. Man up and don't take this bs. Trust me- you'll thank me later!
  • Nov 8, 2009, 11:47 PM
    brokenheartls

    I just went to her school.. she completely ignored me and continued walking.. I told her go to your ex I don't need you anymore and went back home... and then I talked to her sister ( 15 years old ) and she was on my side.. and told me although her ex is an.. she loves him more.. and I am like a rebound here or something.. maybe I should just let her go
  • Nov 8, 2009, 11:48 PM
    brokenheartls
    Her ex is an a**hole... that doesn't care..
    She will miss me someday..
    You don't know what you got until you lose it !
  • Nov 8, 2009, 11:51 PM
    bjohnrupp

    Told you man... now you have closure ----its over
  • Nov 8, 2009, 11:54 PM
    brokenheartls

    Its funny how people are attracted to the a**holes..
    And not to those who are nice and caring..
    Weird
  • Nov 8, 2009, 11:57 PM
    brokenheartls
    There is another way... my g.f listens to people who are experienced , my best friend may talk to her and solve this...
    She always listens to him because well.. he was an a**hole himself
    And now he is way nicer.. he will surely know what to say..
    I think I could count on him.. because he once solved a problem in our relationship... she just hates to admit that she is wrong.. she admits it to other people but not to me...
    I think he could at least solve something...
  • Nov 9, 2009, 01:10 AM
    bjohnrupp

    Well good luck man- you never know what could happen... were all pulling for you. You're right- a lot of girls do like the a$$holes but guys like me and you just have to be ourselves. If they don't like us for who we are than to hell with them. I'm not going to pretend to be someone I'm not just so a girl will like me.
  • Nov 9, 2009, 11:23 PM
    brokenheartls

    Me and my friend and my g.f talked.. she still loves me
    But she still didn't pick between me and her ex
    And she said that we should talk more with my friend because he did help us a lot.. and maybe he could bring us back together
  • Nov 10, 2009, 01:38 AM
    brokenheartls

    The problem now is : why doesn't my girlfriend tell me her problem..
    She said she is comfortable with my friend..
    She cried when she talked to him..
    That never happened when she talked to me
    Why is she not comfortable with me?

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