Originally Posted by ballybee
It seems your childhood friend fell into a sad situation and she probably doesn't know how to get out of it..This is NO MORE about saving your relationship but saving a person...She is obviously not herself.. from convinced that you were going to marry her and this sad situation she is currently in, there is a gap... I guess she tried to fill the emptiness when you two were apart with the wrong crowd as mentionned in other posts and this is the result.
It seems you have done it all, background checks, going through her calls history etc. but the right thing which is to let the door open so that she has someone, A FRIEND, she can talk to freely withouth being judged on her behavior -- if it is too painful for you to have her talk to you on the phone or meeting her, let her e-mail you.Her family or yourself could then hopefully slowly pull back and take her to rehab or see a psychologist...
That's howwhen one recognizes true friendship...in troubled times... Be a friend to a woman before thinking of being her lover.
Is your love for her up to it? Are you ready to listen to her heartaches or yours first?
I have to say i was taken aback by some of your comments which i assume stem from the difficult situation you're going through... lil' cute white girl in a gettho going to get rapped, hurt... lousy mexican boyfriend who may not have a high school education working at a restaurant for $ 8 an hour..... there is no such a stupid job ( you actually do eat restaurant food, don't you?)..... and do not let your pain express itself through racism and take over your own sanity.... you may need some spare one to become a true friend and save your girl
