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Well maybe you problem is that you are too nice a person and talk to everyone.
Perhaps you need to learn to make better judgments on people.
You don't have to like or become involved with everyone you meet. You have to set boundaries and build barriers or you will continue to be hurt.
Ok but im not asking for this drama... like i said before i can't help it if im a nice person that talks to everyone!! If they want my number i give it to them just so i can have new people to hang out with i never mean for it to progress in to more... ya knowQuote:
Originally Posted by Skell
Well are you going to learn your lesson?
Maybe it is a bad idea just to go giving your number out randomly to everyone because you are such a nice person.
This policy doesn't seem to be working to well for you so it might be about time to take a change of direction.
Build some barriers. Protect yourself from the possible drama by not being so willing simply give your number to everyone and anyone.
In effect by doing this you are asking for this drama.
No one says you mean to find this drama but surely if you are continually getting the same results with the same actions it might be an indication that it is time to change your actions.
just a thought!
I agree with Skell, and was going to spread the rep, but the site won't let me for the moment..Quote:
Originally Posted by Skell
By giving your number out so much to the wrong people, you are giving out the wrong message.
I know you may not want to do this, you are a nice person who wants to meet new people but Skell is right, you need to change your direction..
You are falling into patterns and getting the same results based on the same actions you are taking..
The sooner you realise this, the sooner you will begin to get different results of a more positive nature..
The definition of insanity: Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results!
What exactly is it that you're "pursuing?" The age difference notwithstanding, if the only thing you two really have in common is going to concerts and drinking then you don't sound like a very good match. You can see each other and enjoy each others' company but I wouldn't count on it turning into anything serious and lasting. You'd do well to get out of the mindset of "pursuing" something with him given the circumstances.
Why are you telling us that he isn't the same married man? :confused:
He is the same man. I went back and fort to your other post and I know he is the same man!
Unless he is very similar and likes the same music and goes to same concerts as you?
Hmmmmm, Something seems fishy here!
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Originally Posted by Krs
Megan,
You must understand the confusion everyone is having with your 2 threads, one with the married man and this one which you say is not the married man yet seems remarkably similar to the other guy.
Forgive us if we are reading this the wrong way, but you can understand the confusion?
This needs explaining unless you don't mind getting mixed answers..
To be honest, I can't keep up with these two posts, so much so, I'm going for a run now!
No he isn't the same man... i talk to people that listen to the same music as i do... and coincidently i met the older man at a concert but it is not the same married man!! I know he is not married cause i was just at his house on saturday!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Krs
Ok... yes we all listen to the same music. But the married man never brought me to his house. Because of the fact of the wife. The older man, yes we listen to the same music, but i was just at his house on saturday... i mean is there anything else you people would like to know that's different about these two please feel free to askQuote:
Originally Posted by Geoffersonairplane
One question,
What do you feel when you are alone?
No male company e.t.c.
I FEEL FINE... WHYQuote:
Originally Posted by Geoffersonairplane
I was just wondering if Tal was right in his previous answer, that you like the drama and walk the wild side...
No one is trying to be overcritical here, just trying to understand your situation more.
My opinion is... I think you do walk the wild side... BIG TIME!!
And that is fine, you are 20/21.. Great live life now while you are still young..
Things will change though as you get older... and you will see things so differently.
I was out partying when I was your age, loved it and would not have become the man I am today if I did not go through the wild stage..
I have come to appreciate different things in life and I am still learning now!!
Life is great, sometimes cruel but great! Would you say?
Yeah i would, and i know that when it comes time for me to settle down and have a family im not going to be like this anymore. But with all the bad stuff that i have been through from the ages of 17-21 ive learned that im not going to sit back and watch my life pass me by... im going to go and party it up... sure you think i walk the wild side but to me i don't see it that way.. now my family on the other hand they think that i do and that i need to slow down. But i mean i have tried many many things. And your not that much older than me so there is no reason that you can't go out like me!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Geoffersonairplane
Sorry.. I did not mean it in a patronising way.Quote:
Originally Posted by MJ6216
You have fun, you are doing nothing wrong. And yes, I am not much older than you and I do go out an have a good time but possibly not in the same way. It depends what you mean by party.. Believe me, I know what it means to party but don't think like that anymore.
Believe me, 5 years can do a lot!
Just don't make an a**e of yourself on the dancefloor like I used to... LOL
Haha... i don't think your patronising me in any way and i mean i don't really go out during the week because i have to go to work ya know. Basically i party like a rockstar with the rockstars... haha... thats how i see it... i mean if you have ever hung out with a metal band you know they like to party... i mean i don't do the drugs but i do do my fair share of drinking. And i don't go to dance clubs... im not big on dancing unless i have a few drinks in me...Quote:
Originally Posted by Geoffersonairplane
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Originally Posted by Geoffersonairplane
There's nothing like partyin like a brit does :D
I lived in UK for 6 years - I know the score lol
HAHAHAQuote:
Originally Posted by Krs
My ex was into rnb music..
I could not stand it..
Uggggghhhhhhh
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