You could always tell her that you need a little space right now, maybe she'll take the hint. Or you could change your phone number.

Where are the stickies. It was said that they were at the top of the page but I can't see them.

Use the link in my signature, as they are at the top of the relationships forum page.

I see, I was looking at the very top of the page... Long day, sorry

Hey guys I'm doing better I guess. It's hard sometimes, but think she still does care about me a bit.It's just enough, but I think I'm coming to terms with it. I don't feel like I'd want her back if she wanted to get back with me. She lost a good thing.

: )

Doing better is good,and you should be doing that for you,nobody else. You should be your number one priority now,so keep on doing really well and get yourself a good life.

You will be fine... im going through the same thing, multiple break ups, song lyrics, watching her go to a new man, throwing away what we had for years within days...

Just realize if it is meant to be, you will find her as a new better you and she will have grown to a better woman...

But in the meantime you don't know if that will happen or not, what you do know is that you want to make yourself happy so do what you must for you not for her...

She can't control your life, only you can... so now just let her go, ignore her all together and just live life better than when you were with her

It wasn't right. 12 breakups in a year. Hello?

Says a lot.

Its time to regroup & figure out who you are. Grow some.

You have a whole life ahead. Learn from this one.

Then touch the right ones. You will know who they are if you have your sh&&t together.

Never give yourself away for someone else.

Hey guys I haven't updated in a long time, but tonight was an awful night for me. I think I might have completely relapsed from my situation. This post might be kind of long, but then you do have the option to read it, so here it goes. About a week ago I was hangin at a really good friend's house. We were chilling in his room and he was on his computer browsing through his Facebook (tool of the devil). Up comes my ex-gf, who he friends in front me. I never told him about her,but after he friends her I tell him the situation. I told him not to contact her, because she's my ex and I have feelings for her. Although it might sound controlling on my part, he had recently made me promise to never contact his recent ex. I agreed, because I figured that's not what "friends" do. Anyway I go home and end up turning my phone off for about a week, basically until tonight.

So tonight I went with a couple of friends to get some drinks. I call my friend, and ask him to come out as well. He seemed kind of evasive. We texted back and forth and all of sudden he tells me that he's going out with my ex. Well, I didn't take it well(yea I know,sorry guys), and flipped on him. I told him that I would knock him out and called him out on the spot, etc.. Please keep in mind that being drunk does not help in taking bad news well.

I then ended up texting and calling her. My friend has three charges of impending rape on him. Also there was this instance of him beating on his last girlfriend, who broke up with him. I ended up separating the two and got into a little fight with him. I mentioned these things to my ex, and she replied with, "I don't like you. I am actually in love with X and please leave me alone" I was just so hurt by this. She has been with my friend for a week and they love each other? I mean what the hell man? I am just so very hurt. I got betrayed by two people I thought I could trust, and it's like every inch of my being has to hold me back, from going to knock his face in. I just really need some advice and support. I don't know how to handle this and I'm freaking out. I couldn't believe my ex would ever betray me like this either.Probably not going to get any sleep tonight.. thanks everyone

Well man, that surely sucks, but be glad.

They sound perfect for one another.

2 bad friends, liars & cheats.

NEVER speak to either of them again.

Shows you who to be friends with and date.

Do some positive things for yourself (ie: not drinking)
Workout, hang with family. Whatever. Maybe go see a therapist.

Its going to take some time, but don't be one of those guys that wants to make a scene.

Show both of them who's rad.

I guess this the 13th time.

Ouch. I can understand where you're coming from man,but I was doing so well with the NC. All of sudden, these circumstances come up and I got swept up in it again. I just can't get a hold of my feelings right now. It just really hurts

Just stick with it man. Don't think of this as a set back as much as it hurts.

This is a huge slap in the face you needed to move on from this madness & get with people that are true. The ones that you don't even need to question.

Im sure you have or had that feeling.

That means you being aware & using your gut when things don't feel right.

I have all confidence that you can overcome this & understand.

Double the betrayal,double the pain. In essence I know these people are just f'd up, But right now, the shock and anger is getting to me. I just want my feelings to pass. My head is rushing with so many impulsive thoughts, it is killing me.

Yup-he's not your friend,and whatever she is doing with him is not your responsibility now.
Don't allow yourself to be drawn into this. New drama.

You need to go back to total NC and stay that way.

The powers that be are ridding these people from your life.

Be grateful.

Well now that I am completely sober, I feel a hundred times worse. I'm going to go exercising, but my head just can't get around this. How could they do this to me? I mean they're in love after a week.. is she doing this to get on my nerves? My friend's actions are inexcusable, and I informed him to never contact me again. Barely slept last night, and haven't eaten anything. I feel so awful. Anyone in a similar situation with any advice?

Go get some exercise-and eat properly,that will make you feel better.

I understand that you are hurt and feel betrayed,but you must move past those feelings so that you can begin to heal.

Don't allow their obnoxious behaviour to cause you all this pain.

Leave them in the past where they belong.

These things happen in life, and its bigger than all of us. Time will get you through this, and make you better for the experience. Until your emotional dust settles though, the gym is your friend.

You will have many situations where you get to see the true nature of people, and as shocking as it is, its for the best. For now though, heal, and get over your shock, and anger, and make new friends.

I can't even concentrate in class man. This is getting out of hand. There is like this ugly side to me right now, that wishes the worst for them and to get revenge. I just don't know if this is normal. I will not go out of my way to get so called revenge, but right now karma seems like it's taking it's sweet time. I'm almost coming to the point of moving away. If anybody has any techniques for coping with these feelings, that would be very helpful.