Ask Me Help Desk

Ask Me Help Desk (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/forum.php)
-   Relationships (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/forumdisplay.php?f=277)
-   -   Is it that he can't let go and that's why he has'nt taken all his things (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/showthread.php?t=417708)

  • Nov 20, 2009, 12:12 AM
    annette88
    Is it that he cant let go and that's why he has'nt taken all his things
    L have wrote about my ex and l on here before and wondered if anyone could enlighten me? We have broken up and made up too many times to mention over the past three years! Well every time we have broken up he always takes his personal stuff i.e clothing,dvds etc but never takes the million and one tools he has in my garage. Well we broke up AGAIN two weeks ago but last night he text me saying that he had organised to take everything, to which l simply replied 'ok'. L left the garage unlocked so we wouldn't have to see each other and l have just discovered that he has only taken the clothes l had bagged up and put in the garage but again not taken his tools-which are mainly his fathers! The other thing is he works nights and he text me a fdw nights ago, during his break at 2 30am that he was collecting his things Friday after work (which is today) but he knows, from previous break-ups that l always leave anything he has in the garage and leave it unlocked. L am in NC with him and wonder if that was excuses to contact me and say lets try again? Any idea what's happening here?
  • Nov 20, 2009, 12:51 AM
    amicon
    Try not to overthink his texts,you say you've broken up a number of times and in a previous post you mention your not being compatible,so I would say stay nc this time and don't look back.
  • Nov 20, 2009, 12:58 AM
    itried

    Honestly, it sounds like the two of you have a little routine figured out:

    Break up
    Put stuff in garage
    Leave door unlocked
    Take stuff
    Get back together
    Lather, rinse, repeat

    I guess what I'm trying to say is: what makes this time different from the last (how many) times?

    I'm guessing that he's basically pretty certain that he'll be back using his tools in the garage in no time and that it's too much work to move the tools out since he's going to have to bring them all back again anyway.
  • Nov 20, 2009, 01:06 AM
    rockie100

    The million and one things would take effort to move. Effort isn't needed if you just plan to get back together. Effort is needed to make this a healthy, lasting relationship.
    Tell him the game is over. Breaking up and getting back together is done. So is the free storage. (look-up storage fees in your area)
    How old is he anyway? Don't play.

  • All times are GMT -7. The time now is 04:14 PM.