Ask Me Help Desk - What do you guys think is going on?

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Originally Posted by loovee609

like i said its been 3 yrs ago. since they were together and he didn't talk bout it on his own i was being very nosy and asking a whole bunch of questions and im scare to say it because i'm scared he's not there yet. idk he says hes into me more and more and i'm on his mind like crazy but that doesn't mean he loves me. and i rather wait, i was planning on telling him the 26 of December which is when we make 6 months. we're going to be in PA and i planned to tell him outside he's parents huge backyard under the stars by the bon fire. =]

If you want to wait then wait, but it could help or make things worse. If he isn't there after 5 months then maybe he needs to think about more things. I know I messed up a few relationships trying to get my mind together after I was with a few girls who messed my mind up.

I want to wait until my heart and head both say tell him. My heart says I love him so much but head is telling me to wait just a little. There's a reason why god put our mind above our heart. And I do love him but maybe I should give him sometime. There's no need to rush and anyway I tell him I'm falling hard for him and all he does is hug me. Imagine what will happen when I say I love you... a body massage? A passionate kiss? Or maybe he'll cook for me... all I'm saying is I don't know what he will say back but I too got hurt two years ago I'm over it now but for a long time I was scared to love someone just because of the way my ex hurt me now I'm with this incredible guy but he also has baggage of his own =/ but now I'm in love! And its so scary, I can't even imagine.

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Originally Posted by loovee609

i want to wait until my heart and head both say go ahead and tell him. my heart says i love him so much but head is telling me to wait just a little. there's a reason why god put our mind above our heart. and i do love him but maybe i should give him sometime. there's no need to rush and anyways i tell him im falling hard for him and all he does is hug me. imagine what will happen when i say i love you.....a body massage?? a passionate kiss?? or maybe he'll cook for me...all i'm saying is i dont know what he will say back but i too got hurt two years ago im over it now but for a long time i was scared to love someone just because of the way my ex hurt me now im with this incredible guy but he also has baggage of his own =/ but now im in love! and its so scary, i can't even imagine.

Well It sounds like you should wait if you are afraid nothing good will come of it. Giving him time sounds like an even better idea. It sounds like you are starting to figure out what you are doing now.

If you are both going to be paralyzed by fear,you could be missing out on something very special.
Also,the bottom line is this,actions speak louder than words.

I suggest you spend more time building a stronger relationship.

Once you're relationship is more stable, there will be more security to spread around between the two of you.

I'm not scared of loving him anymore but I think he's scared of loving me, not just me but just falling in love over all. Do any of you guys think I'm right? He also just told me that he got sad when I said I was in love with his penis and not him I asked why but he didn't tell me. Why did he get sad he knew I was joking around I feel like he wants my attention now all the time.