Ask Me Help Desk - How can I get my exgirlfriend back

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Originally Posted by paxe

Horrible advice. People are not object to play with and you are just going to end up hurting more people. I just read a bit of your story ( it is soooooo long ), but you actually do need to take care of yourself. It seems you are too intent of finding someone. A true man isn't afraid of being single and doesn't look for them. I went through horrible pain but I got my life back together when my ex broke up.

I'm honestly doing great with myself and I'm attracting a LOT of girls. I'm not joking, I just take part in activities and hang out a bit. I am successful because I have super confidence, I have a life, and I am not "looking" for anyone.

You have to build your life alone and move on from your ex.

I can't do it---im 52 and I'm not good at being alone anymore and working 9-5.. its impossible for me... my life is over paxe.. im telling you.. im lcky if I could even make 12 bucks an hour and live insqualler renting a room in some hole boarding house? cmon... im a freakin loser.. I made it big like no one else on this planet by the time I was 25... that was back in the 80's before even Microsoft... non educated and look what the fk happened to me... I worked my assoff in a garage for 3 years at my folks house in the summer the winter it was freezing cold.. ive done it all
Blood sweat and tears.. I can do it anymore and I can't go on with my ex
She's the love of my life and I used to think I wanted a young chick.
But my ex is adamant
I'm lost confused and my heart is broken and empty

52 and its about that time to be not alone

And she's to be 56... I mean I've dragged her through my for so many years an I'm sure her friends sat stay away from him he doesn't work and he keeps running to his moms for support like a turd baby that I am.. I know two other guys older than me that live with mommy.. its quite sad

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Originally Posted by shmutzydawg48

i can't do it---im 52 and im not good at being alone anymore and working 9-5..its impossible for me...my life is over paxe..im telling you..im lcky if i could even make 12 bucks an hour and live insqualler renting a room in some hole boarding house??cmon...im a freakin loser..i made it big like no one else on this planet by the time i was 25...that was back in the 80's before even microsoft...non educated and look what the fk happened to me....i worked my assoff in a garage for 3 years at my folks house in the summer the winter it was freezing cold..ive done it all
blood sweat and tears..i can do it anymore and i can't go on with my ex
shes the love of my life and i used to think i wanted a young chick.
but my ex is adamant
im lost confused and my heart is broken and empty

52 and its about that time to be not alone

Look, I really feel for you, I really do but let me tell you my parents story. I am palestinian and my father was born as a refugee. My grandparents lost everything, they had only clothes on them and my dad left his country when he was 20 days old. They lived as refugees all their lives. That's an extremely miserable life (corruption, prostitution, war, genocide... ). After that civil war erupted in Lebanon and my family lost a lot of family members and had to leave again.

Life was miserable. They never gave up though. My parents taught me that in life, I have to work hard in life to get the things I want. They went from nothing to creating a whole life and having 4 boys, who all graduated from top universities. All this with hard work. My parents were 40 when they had their first success.

You shouldn't rely on your ex to make you happy, happiness comes from within. I don't care if you're 52 or 60 or 100, life continues and you still make whatever you want with it.
You said you work from 9 to 5, what do you do with the rest of your time? You can take night courses, start a new career somewhere. You will start small, yes, but you will grow and your age isn't such a hindrance. You just need to show energy and that you're not that old.

Or you can start investing slowly but surely and build your wealth again slowly but securely. Whatever your age, the possibilities are almost infinite. I see people who are 40-50 who are still continuing undergraduate studies of engineering, meaning they are going in the workforce at 40-50 and, if they can do it so do you.

We can help you as much as possible but YOU need to give yourself hope and work on your life. Apply the stickies and start taking care of yourself. Step by step, you will grow.
Ps: The amount of cash you have in your bank account, doesn't determine what kind of person you are.

I think the best thing that can happen is to find a doctor that can treat your mental illness effectively.

You can not commit to a relationship and expect that your partner have endless patience and understanding regarding your illness.It is not fair to them.

Your only concern right now should be getting well. After you have been well for some time,then you can concentrate on work and love and your future.

Getting well must be your only priority.

Your life is not over after 50.Im 55 and I have just started a new phase in mine.It is not to late to find that one doctor who is willing to go the extra mile with you and try some new therapies.

Clearly, medication has not been effective for you long term.Has anyone ever mentioned that you might beneft from electroshock therapy?

It is not the same treatment it was even twenty years ago and the success rate for people who have had little success with meds is worth looking at.

I would investigate it.People with long running mental illness have found it to be very effective.

It could be your ticket out of this cycle of highs and lows you have had to suffer through all these years.

Only when you are a well person should you peruse a relationship.
This back and forth romance you have been having is detrimental to both of you.

I wish you the very best.You have gone down a very difficult road.