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  • Oct 28, 2009, 08:14 AM
    vanhorn
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by kappachino View Post
    though it WILL be hard and meet someone who is willing to communicate properly with you - in Holland! Good luck :)

    Ach, je hebt gelijk. :(

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Cat1864 View Post
    I think her prior behavior with her ex-boyfriend should be a huge red flag that can be seen from Mars.

    I'm not quite sure what you mean by that.
  • Oct 28, 2009, 10:23 AM
    Cat1864
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by vanhorn View Post
    She did the same with her ex boyfriend last year, telling him that she wants a break. And eventually they broke up.

    Past behavior can often be helpful in predicting future behavior especially if there seems to be a trend happening.

    You said that she did this with at least one boyfriend before you. This may be her habitual way to break up with someone which, as you seem to recognize, means that you should be extra cautious in thinking about ever getting back together with her.
  • Oct 28, 2009, 02:46 PM
    LJDK

    Dude there was a reason you packed your bags when you were there.

    Judging by her attitude and unwillingness to talk, move on. Find the girl who is right for you. Blah, who am I to speak... I have a girl that also "Doesn't like to argue" it's a bs excuse. What people tend to neglect is the fact that if you push away negative feelings, you also kill the good feelings. Feelings are feelings... there are no discrimination when killing them.
  • Oct 29, 2009, 01:44 AM
    vanhorn

    Yeah, I really think the no arguing thing is so stupid. How the hell are our problems going to get solved if you just "give it time" or "not talk about it."

    As I said, I came back from Holland 8 days ago, and she called me once (for less than a minute) the day after I came back just to check that I got back safely. However, yesterday night she e-mailed me asking why aren't I signing in on MSN. I'm really confused. I mean, if she really wants to talk to me, why didn't she call me, or even text me?
  • Oct 29, 2009, 05:07 AM
    kappachino

    You are now at a ''safe'' distance - in other words, you aren't invading her space. You are back home now so she probably feels she can now ''type'' what she wants rather than have to say things face to face - be careful and remember that things were very different when you were together in Canada. I wish you good luck :)

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