Just wait till you reach 1.5 months of NC. You will feel completely different. You will feel a lot better and start to see your life for what it really is, fun. Just fill your time with things you like to do.

For example, I have not rejected a social invite from my friends this whole time. I've been on one spur of the moment road trip to Miami, 1 long weekend ski trip, a fishing trip, and many long crazy bar nights. All of these things have kept me distracted and have been fun.

Just have as much fun as you can. You may meet a new girl in the process. You never know!

I'd say she was just toying with you. Also trying to make you jealous? That was clearly out of spite in your case.. just forget the soppy cow - she's not worthy of your time and effort to work things out.

Come to think of it, she isn't worth the energy used to think about her - because as long as she's causing you heart-ache then she's just trouble.

Forget her and move on buddy, life is great.


-Xm8

Just wanted to check back in and say I am nearly a month into nc after a horrible messy five month relationship, first two, three weeks were rough and I wondered if I would ever think about anything else ever again. But now the fog is lifting and I only think about it occasionally, so to anyone who is toughing it out, hang in there its well worth it.
And thanks for all the peoiple who posted on my question they were all vwry helpful remarks. This site is a great source of free support:)

Good to hear you are doing well. Keep it up. Perhaps you could lend your insight to others who come on this website.

"Pay it forward"

Its great that you were able to get past those first critical few weeks! That is when the NC thing is the hardest.
Good for you and thanks for the heads up!

Good job, we're proud of you. Keep it up

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Just got kicked in the stomach again!! By the girl who had me searching for a site like this about 7 weeks ago when I changed my number and went no contact, I was doing great was dating other girls, but slowly she started to creep back into my mind until one day I said oh well one little text can't hurt, then we started talking, and over the weekend we hooked up.
She told me everything I wanted to hear, and I was sucked in ( silly me) yesterday I asked her to meet for coffee, she said she was busy, I said that I thought she was being silly and childish because I know she is trying to make me jealous or that she was seeing someone else. I prob overacted but that's just me, she texted me back to take a hike and that I need help. Which now I feel like I do.:( I was so happy to have her back but it was very shoert lived, so I guess you folks on hear are right it almost never works out when you go back.
Oh this is supposed to be question, what is this girls motive?

Who cares what her motive is, get back on the NC train and in a hurry!

Who cares?

Not your problem.

Back to NC and on to nicer women who will appreciate you for you.

She sounds like a black hole, waiting to suck the life out of you...

The others are right, her motive is of little concern... how you handle this, however, matters greatly.

Feel deeply for you bud.. seems like a used & abused situation. Just get yourself to no contact again, there's nothing more than you can do than that!

Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.

Her motives are not important, getting back to NC is.

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Just wasted five months of no contact for absolutely nothing, I was doing so well then I hit a wall and could not stop thinking about this person. I started to convince myself that she was missing me as much as I was missing her. So out of the blue I contacted her, then we met up a few times, and then she told me she didn't want to hang out anymore as it would lead down the same road and said we both know how that ends. I flipped and sent a very angry text to which I got no reply and now I feel terrible. All that time for nothing:mad:

It ended with me in total despair and heartbreak after only one week and we never even kissed.
My pride is dashed and I am very hurt. I suppose that this was inevitable and I convinced myself that her feelings for me were much stronger than they actually were.
I reacted in anger to her telling me she did not want to hang out anymore,
I must accept that it I did put myself in line to be hurt again and that that was a risk that I chose to ignore and now I must pay the price.

Its not the end of the world, it will hurt for as long as I decide to let it.


I refused to accept the one thing that would have saved me all this grief

She Does not like me! And that's okay too.

I am full of regret over reacting in anger but I feel she did over step the mark with her insults and I retaliated.
I guess I'm looking for a way where I don't have to feel totally humiliated and hurt
And I can't really seem to find it.
Its back to NC one day at a time, there is no other way

Sorry to hear that. After almost one year I broke contact myself and ran into the same issue. Except her wanabee hardcore boyfriend started threatening to fight me and kill me, etc. Which I told him to come on over. Had to be a man with pride you know. ;)


We have been broken up since July of 2008 and I am just finally coming to terms.

That's harsh, well let that be a lesson to you both. Pick yourselves up, and keep it moving.

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That's the way to go, for sure. It gets better.