He also got extremely upset when I told him I had plans that Thursday before he was going away and did not talk to me for awhile.

Your post is do I move on with my heart-my advice is:yes do.he fed you a lot of lines and now he s sleeping with someone else-time to move on and chalk him up as a bad experience.its tough but you can do much better.

This is all so hard; this dating stuff. Rules, games, all these formulas to making it work. Whenever happened to just being yourself? Haha I get so anxious with all the things I have to remember to do and not do when I just want to go with my heart.

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He also got extremely upset when I told him I had plans that thursday before he was going away and did not talk to me for awhile.

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Chalk it up. This is a sign of an unhealthy and non functional relationship. Be glad its over with and move on.

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This is all so hard; this dating stuff. Rules, games, all these formulas to making it work. Whenever happened to just being yourself? haha I get so anxious with all the things I have to remember to do and not do when I just want to go with my heart.

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The only rule I have to dating is that there aren't any rules. Have fun, ENJOY getting to know someone and keep it real. Going into anything with expectations leads to ultimate failure. We too often get caught up in the "what ifs" that we never enjoy our time. Take it slow and just have fun.

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I did not fall for him on the second date.

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Then why you got so jealous when he was staring at other ladies? You called it a "break up"? ( It's not even a relationship why you think you are breaking up?)

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I don't particularly think that expecting someone to be considerate and not rude is a problem.

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I tell him I don’t think it’s going to work out.

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Then you communicate with him on the issue, why talking about not going to work out? That won't solve the problem.

I am sorry I think you misunderstood me! I should have started the story from end to start. We were "together" for a few months(which is nothing I realize). I "ended" it on the second date because he refused to eat his food and started crying at the restaurant table. Yes, I was “put off” by him not listening to my story but I would not have ended the date because of that! Haha I just wanted to move on from the story because I did not want to repeat myself, like I said it was a comical story. I just wanted to ignore the “incident” or fact that he was not paying attention and see what else he had to offer. I wanted to talk about something else and I did explain that to him. I started my original question with that story because it was….wow when I should have ended it. Epiphany. Yeah you are right though CFZD I could have reacted differently to him crying. It was just such a shock on a second date and a little too much drama for me.

I should have never continued to date him.

Good point. So much drama on a second date is a big red flag.