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Well it is hard for me to trust. I should tell you that I paid her back yesterday. I acted very nice the same way she did n then I did exactly to the last detail everything she did to me. I sent the same exact messages back n went to a bar n all. now she is mad at me.

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Well no S*** she's mad at you. Revenge is the LAST thing you want to do if you're trying to have a meaningful relationship. Communicate, don't play games. What a stupid thing to do.

Well I told her I'm sorry and that I feel this is all my fault for not trusting her. I will try harder and all. She text back that she needs time to get unpissed. So what do you think now?

Well it's great! You are behaving the way you should. Communication is the key.

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She text back that she needs time to get unpissed. So what do you think now?

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So do as she asks and leave her alone while she gets unp*ssed. I wouldn't want to be around for that anyway.

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Well I told her im sorry and that i feel this is all my fault for not trusting her. I will try harder and all. She text back that she needs time to get unpissed. So what do you think now?

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I'd need some time too. At least you apologized. Think next time before you act. Usually people just jump into action just because they have a certain emotion, yet they do not think about why they are having that emotion anyway. You can be pissed if you want, but how you deal with it is what's important. Give her space.

Thank you. Do you think she will dump me or would she have done it by now? Can I send her a text tonight around 9 saying I miss you?

I wouldn't, I would leave her alone for a few days at the least.

Yeah back off, it's all up in the air right now. Don't fuel the fire.

An apology is nice, now the right thing to do is honor her request.
In the meantime while she is getting unp*ssed, spend sometime focusing on your issues.
You can not control whether someone will cheat on you, but after four years, this girl deserves some respect for being faithful.
If you are so busy chasing her around so that no one swoops in on 'your property', you are going to end up pushing this girl out of your life for good.
With honest communication, without the games, you can help build a foundation of trust, so that she is hiding things from you and you aren't overreacting at every insecure feeling you have.
She knows where you stand, let her contact you next, fight your insecurity and start thinking about ways you can feel better and work better in this relationship.

I really miss her... what if she is waiting for me to send her a message?

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I really miss her...what if she is waiting for me to send her a message?

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She'll send you one when she's ready , don't push her.

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I really miss her...what if she is waiting for me to send her a message?

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If she wanted to talk to you, she would contact you. You don't need to guess how she's feeling.

Spend some time doing your own thing. Don't wait by the phone for her either.

Ooops I sent her a message saying "i miss you!" that's it. I had to... its a feeling thing. After I said sorry she said she needs time to get unpissed and after that I sent 3 texts asking y she did that... so I felt since I didn't speak to her all day an ending as an aftertaste saying I miss you wouldn't hurt.

Don't say "oops" You don't feel bad about it. You're trying to get her attention, give her space.

No message back from her. I guess she is out doing whatever she wants while I'm here!

All right well Don't just sit there being un productive, do something, clean your room, wash your car, rent a movie, chill with the dudes, whatever! Just don't sit around waiting for her to call. You have a cell phone, if you keep it with you, she'll be able to contact you whenever she feels ready.

OK... thanx... im just scared she will call and say its over.

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ok...thanx...im just scared she will call and say its over.

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No point worrying about something that's speculation and you don't have any control over anyway. Cross that bridge if you come to it.

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no message back from her. I guess she is out doing whatever she wants while I'm here!

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She could be in doing whatever she wants which appears to be ignoring you.

Give her space to think or forget about the relationship.

You are showing that you are insensitive to her needs, wants and desires. If you ignore her wishes, why should she pay any attention to yours?

Give her space to think.

If you don't then you might as well forget about the relationship because you will have pushed her away.