I just broke up with my boyfriend of 5 and a half years we were on and off also I was thinking of changing my number today just so I don't have to wonder if he is trying to call but I don't think I will. If he wanted to talk to me he would call my house, my work.. I can't change everything.. so I guess I just have have to be sad right now

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Originally Posted by moni1210

i just broke up with my boyfriend of 5 and a half years we were on and off also i was thinking of changing my number today just so i don't have to wonder if he is trying to call but i don't think i will. if he wanted to talk to me he would call my house, my work..i can't change everything..so i guess i just have have to be sad right now

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Sometimes saving yourself is the only thing you can do.

You seem to be focused on her sleeping or not sleeping with other people, you mentioned it once each in your first 3 posts.

You need to get over that.:rolleyes:

I understand that you both slept with other people AFTER you broke up, but come on now... you ALWAYS got back together before and you did again, so unless you were broken up for a while and you both had time to meet and form a relationship with some one else, than it was cheating, because you both probably assumed you were getting back together.

Please work on yourself and don't worry about the phone thing, there are a lot of people with your number and you still have hers.:)

Good Luck.

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Originally Posted by redhed35

sometimes saving yourself is the only thing you can do.

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yes it is! And I wish it were that easy. You are a very positive person, I can only hope to be half

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Originally Posted by moni1210

yes it is! and i wish it were that easy. you are a very positive person, i can only hope to be half

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Been where you have been,as have many others here.

To the op... listen to the advice given!

My ex contacted me after 5 days and wanted to see me. I declined and then got sent a very manipulative message which once again started the text drama's between us.

I had enough and told my ex that I was changing my phone number, leave me alone, you chose not to be with me so go away.

I changed my number and I tell you what its like a breathe of fresh air... :)

Its amazing what you can do once you've had that head space to think without emotions.

Now I just have to close my email account... That's for next weekend me thinks :cool:

Or you could close it now.:-)

thank you all for your advice. I really appreciate it. Ive been too upset to grieve the loss of the relationship, So Ive been hanigng with friends, kissing at the clubs(lol), and just downright having a good time. I do get random thoughts of her still although its only been 2 weeks since the break-up..

Yesterday I went to a 2 year anniversary party my friend and his girlfriend had... That was interesting because my 5 year anniversary wouldve been on September 19...

I am definitely going to be super busy that day so that I won't even have TIME to THINK about that mess...

again, thank you all for your wonderful advice. This may sound weird, but it feels like I'm already over it

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Originally Posted by CoolDude48323

again, thank you all for your wonderful advice. This may sound weird, but it feels like im already over it

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You may get hit by it again and feel as though you're not, but it's just part of the process.

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Originally Posted by amicon

or you could close it now.:-)

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Well folks, what do u know? She called me last night and texted me... she obviously found my new number. Im glad I was too gone last night to even realize she called... therefore she went to voicemail...

Ignore her-or you ll be back at square one again.

This is very ODD, because I didn't want her to have my new number, she somehow got it, I've been ignoring her, and now she's blowing my phone up with texts: you may want to read my original story before you read these texts if you are new to this

Here are texts she sent me today, keep in mind I still haven't responded yet:

12:00pm- "Hello"?

12:05pm- "I can tell your not interested in seeing me. Its cool. Have fun. I shouldve left things the way they were. Now I feel stupid"

12:07pm- "And you changed your number. But I guess you're saying you dont want me having your number. If so then ok, just let me know."

12:10pm- "Well i can take a hint....Be safe"

1:00pm- "Look....I love you! I miss you! I wanna see you! But if you;ve moved on and im nothing to you, then dont be an ....just be real"

1:05pm- "My feelings dont change with the wind....I'm not sure about others. This is my life, and I care about who's in and out of it"

1:10pm- "So if you feel adversely, just keep ignoring me and i'll know how to handle this and forward. Myabe I shouldve taken the hint"

1:15pm- "After all that, you have nothing to say?"

1:17pm- "My feelings are really hurt"

1:19pm- "I miss you"

1:23pm- "You must not feel the same way"

1:30pm- "Hello?? why are u ignoring me?, like I did something to you"

1:33pm- "Now I feel like im harrassing you...I can't believe you"



Any thoughts... these were all the texts from her today. Keep in mind she ignored me for a week, until I changed my number if you've read my original post

Don't respond!

You not responding is making her wonder what she has done,the second you respond your roped back in and back to square one.

If you can turn off your phone.

Find the strength to NOTreply to those messages ;dont let her manipulative ways get to you.break the pattern of break up-make up-breakup!

Doesn't matter how she got your number.

Don't play along with her mind games.

Just ignore and move forward. DON'T walk backwards.

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Originally Posted by CoolDude48323

thank you all for your advice. I really appreciate it. Ive been too upset to grieve the loss of the relationship, So Ive been hanigng with friends, kissing at the clubs(lol), and just downright having a good time. I do get random thoughts of her still although its only been 2 weeks since the break-up..

Yesterday I went to a 2 year anniversary party my friend and his girlfriend had.....That was interesting because my 5 year anniversary wouldve been on September 19.....

I am definately going to be super busy that day so that I wont even have TIME to THINK about that mess....

again, thank you all for your wonderful advice. This may sound weird, but it feels like im already over it

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I just have to say this... reading your posts especially the one quoted above is just rubbing me the wrong way... YOUR SO NOT OVER HER. Not to mention that everything you do is almost in a way to "Get back or Get even" you don't know what she is doing so you are out to out do her. Please be safe and respectful to yourself. Not to mention... changing your number is not going to stop you from thinking about whether she is trying to contact you... you were still thinking about it and now that she has you are secretly HAPPY. Your happy that now you have the power... stop playing games and do the necessary work.
Leave it alone and GROW UP.
No hard feelings, I think you needed a little tough love... Treat yourself with more respect and stop playing games.

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Originally Posted by CoolDude48323

ey everyone,


Since then we got back together, but this past week I said some off the wall means things because I felt she didnt want to hear me vent about the day I had at work...I posted some hurtful things on facebook that my cousin who is her best friend relayed back to her. I;ve since then deleted my cousin as a friend, just for stirring up the drama even more. My cousin is in an abusiverelationship with her husband so i figured she wanted to rile things up.


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Not to mention... that this is all about you... what your feeling and what your missing and you you you. Your being selfish. Your cousin most likley was giving the girl a heads up that you were being immature and posting horrible things, Not because she wanted to stir things up but that she wanted the girl to know that is the fair thing to do. NOBODY DESERVES THAT. Particularly from someone that states that they LOVE you. 5 years, really. That is a long time to turn on someone every time things don't go your way.

Sounds like she's offering you another ticket to get on that Rollercoaster again.

Your choice buddy but you know how rough that ride is , and you keep wanting to go back :rolleyes:

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Originally Posted by MsMewiththat

Not to mention.... that this is all bout you.... what your feeling and what your missing and you you you. Your being selfish. Your cousin most likley was giving the girl a heads up that you were being immature and posting horrible things, Not because she wanted to stir things up but that she wanted the girl to know that is the fair thing to do. NOBODY DESERVES THAT. Particularly from someone that states that they LOVE you. 5 years, really. That is a long time to turn on someone every time things don't go your way.

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Immature or NOT, I'm NOT going BACk to that RELATIONSHIP! IT was TOXIC! I've slept with 2 people in the past week, and this whole time, do you know what I think it was? Lust! We've both slept around after out break up make up patterns. If I got back with her, I would be having images of her doing something with someone behind my back. I hope she drives herself Nuts trying to reach me!!

Sorry to be so harsh, but I needed to Vent