The emails and messages do not need to be abusive for this to be stalking.

Do start a file of his messages and contacts.
I hope you will go the police asap.

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Good idea. Catch him in the act. Can't get any better evidence than that!

Even if the texts aren't abusive, they are making you uncomfortable. That is enough. It's not 1 thing that will make the police believe you. It's an accumulation of things.

Try your best not to think about him unless you absolutely have to. He's not worth your time.

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Had to spread the rep: but thank you. I was just think over the way things have been.. and it really is the wholeness of it...

Asking: Thanks! I will do that!

Don't delete any of his text messages! Letting the police know is a must - and talk to your family. It's really important that they know, even if they may think you're overreacting. You know what the situation is - so convince them - even your brother!

Roxypox,

It sounds like you are ready to go to the police, but I just wanted to share that I was in a similar situation recently. Mine didn't last nearly as long as yours, but I understand the feelings of discomfort and unease that you are having. A few people on here urged me to think about a restraining order. I didn't go quite that far, but I did have my attorney write a strong letter warning him that the order was the next step if he didn't leave me alone. I won't hesitate now to do that - he has been warned. I just wanted to say that it has given me a lot of peace of mind. As everyone has said, keep all the texts, e-mails, phone messages, letters, etc. You may need them as evidence some day. I think the police will take this seriously given all the facts. Good luck.

I'm sorry I haven't given an update since the 28th of August, been crazy busy.

I haven't heard from him again, which is good, but it has only been a week. I talked to my aunt once more when she had mulled this over (its nice to have you guys here and her in the same city!)

When I talked to her I kind of decided that I'm going to wait until the next time (if there is a next time) he contacts me before I go to the police with this, mainly because it will give me time to cool my head and print out mails etc. also now I have a plan!

Gosh, It really did help with this advice, its more then comforting to know that I do have rights and I have options when it comes to this, because when I posted this thread I felt totally lost and I felt like I had no options (since he wouldn't listen)

Thank you all so much! For you time and care! I will keep you posted!

Hoping he leaves you alone forever.:-)

That's what family, and friends are for, your both, to many of us.

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Thats what family, and friends are for, your both, to many of us.

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Thank you! :) and several of you are def that for me as well!

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/no-chat-speak-no-text-talk-303157.html
I think maybe your not harsh enough if a guy was always on me I would straight up go to him and tell him 2 off... and tell him don't ever come close 2 my family again if he doesn't take you serious take him 2 court

I just want to urge you to stay aware at all times. I think with the diagnosis that he has you should stay very aware of the small things they may add up. You can't take the silence as him backing off. It's always possible to be the calm before the storm. Please be safe. Maybe call a non emergency number and make some one aware of what he's up to. Just a thought. Best to you.