Ask Me Help Desk - Now she wants to talk.

Excellent. I think you knew what to do, and not speak to her, but just needed some confirmation. She after all this time was thinking of you, and made contact. You didn't break and contact her. You won. Game over. Now be proud of your victory.

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Originally Posted by chuff

Excellent. I think you knew what to do, and not speak to her, but just needed some confirmation. She after all this time was thinking of you, and made contact. You didn't break and contact her. You won. Game over. Now be proud of your victory.

Yeah, I was never going to contact her. I just smirked when I got the message. I don't talk to anyone about me and her, so that's why I started this thread. I just wanted to get my thoughts out there to anyone who would listen without being partial to one of us (me and her). It was hard at some moments (not to break NC, for a whole 12 months!), but when I found out how quickly she had a boyfriend it all became so much easier.

I feel kind of immature for approaching it from a win/lose perspective but I can't help it. When you're hurt so badly and screwed over so callously by someone the concept of "wishing them the best of luck" or whatever kind of flies (or, gets drop-kicked) out the window.

I think that chapter of my life is now completely over.

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Originally Posted by itried

Yeah, I was never going to contact her. I just smirked when I got the message. I don't talk to anyone about me and her, so that's why I started this thread. I just wanted to get my thoughts out there to anyone who would listen without being partial to one of us (me and her). It was hard at some moments (not to break NC, for a whole 12 months!), but when I found out how quickly she had a boyfriend it all became so much easier.

I feel kind of immature for approaching it from a win/lose perspective but I can't help it. When you're hurt so badly and screwed over so callously by someone the concept of "wishing them the best of luck" or whatever kinda flies (or, gets drop-kicked) out the window.

I think that chapter of my life is now completely over.

Close the book forever and keep smirking.

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Originally Posted by itried

Actually, it was she who left me. I'm not saying I want to play any games with her. I'm saying that I would like to be the one who gets the last say in all of this. I'm just admitting to what every other person who's been dumped doesn't say. Every person on this site, whether they admit it or not, wants to come out on top of their break-up situation. I haven't spoken with her in a year and I've been living my life. Now, out of nowhere she opens up communication with me. If your girl dumped you after such a lengthy relationship then came back a year later wouldn't you want to feel vindicated at the end? Of course. My ego took a blow after all of this and it would be nice to get some of it back, if possible. I understand the concept of playing games and I'm not at all with it. It's just the curiosity that drives me now. This is why I'm basically thinking out loud on this thread. I have no intention of contacting her at all.

And no, I don't want to feel what it's like to be together with her again. I don't even know what that means.

In your post, you said "I broke up with my GF". So the story changes?

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Originally Posted by xadmin

In your post, you said "I broke up with my GF". So the story changes?

Nope. Same story. We broke up. She dumped me.

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Originally Posted by chuff

Excellent. I think you knew what to do, and not speak to her, but just needed some confirmation. She after all this time was thinking of you, and made contact. You didn't break and contact her. You won. Game over. Now be proud of your victory.

Alrighty then...

TIME TO DO THE HAPPY DANCE!