Originally Posted by rol
<<There is no need to express how you feel so I'm of the mind that you are looking for an excuse to see him again. Please straighten me out.>>
no i promise its not an excuse. don't be out of ur mind with me ;-)
So the thing is we still own a house together where i am living now, so the issue is regarding a really big bill. It can wait a few weeks.
Thanks everyone else for the advice.
Ive also read love tactics site which is great , kind of the advice i had given to myself....But i guess there is a waiting period first?
This one for example
"It isn't the "friendship" you want to discontinue. It's any expectations he may feel entitled to from you that you want to cease. In other words, he can call but you may not be there. He might want to see you but you might have a date with someone else, or plans that you are under no obligation to explain to him. There is no understanding of exclusivity, or friendship that makes him a priority over anyone else. But I wouldn't hold a hard line on saying "we can't be friends...it's either all or nothing!" What that does is tell him how badly hooked you are on him and that you're all emotional over him. He will be more attracted to you if he thinks that you are independent enough to be his friend, but not be dependent upon his friendship. I know it's a hard balancing act, but it is precisely what works. Be such a good friend that he really enjoys your friendship -- WHEN HE CAN GET IT! But be elusive enough (end your conversations first, and don't return all of his calls or any of them right away) that you become more of a challenge. It is VERY important also, that you show enough independence to be developing relationships with other men and dating as much as possible. That stimulates a man's competitive nature and increases his desire for you.
Would this be the next step after the 2 month no contact phase?
i really really appreciate all your advice.