I did end up talking to her over MSN. (throughout most of out relationship we have talked consistently over MSN)
I noticed twice on Friday that she came on line from work for a minute or 2 and then left again. She then did it twice on Tuesday. She never comes online from work.
On the second time she came on, I decided to say hi.
She gave me a friendly hi back and we chatted back and forth for 15 minutes. (It seemed like 2 minutes) There was lots of laughing and smiling and then I said I better let her get back to work. She said she should and then added that it was nice chatting. I came away feeling great. As soon as she came online we started chatting and as soon as we were done, she left. I had the impression that she was coming fishing for me to say something or trying to get up the nerve to say something herself. Just a guess though.
Since then, I have chatted with her twice and she has said that she will talk me later.
Today I got back in the office and she was online again from work so I decided to hi again. She said hi back and then said that she was about to go offline. I told her that I wouldn't keep her from work and she said "Ok, yes, I better get back to work, I will talk to you later"
Since I started writing this, we have started talking again. She has been telling me about the trouble her kids are getting in to.
And advice for a next step?