I'm not into chick flicks but I liked The Perex Family. If Holiday is that good I'll have to watch it.

It's a great movie... it really makes sense... and it's, for the most part, about issues that REAL people face. What's the Perex Family?

You DEFiNITELY need to watch The Holiday. It's an awesome movie. One of my top ten... and that's hard to get!

I'm not normally a fan of chick flicks either (also on Top Ten are 300 and Equilibrium), but this one is a definite winner!

Oops meant Perez Family
Its about a mother and adult daughter that left Cuba and the father of the daughter was left behind in Fidels jail. He gets out and comes to Fla looking for them.

Marisa Tomey is in it.

I only have about 10 movies I really like
Not counting kids movies

I think you know deep inside that this person is a total waste of time. Racist and namecaller? You deserve a man not a pondlife. Hugs

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Yes, he cheated.

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I agree

Well, last night he called and reminded me again how dumb, and stupid I am. And now the blame shifting has started. It must be my guilty conscious... so now he's labeling me the cheater. It's absolutely amazing how people can act so childish when they don't get their way! I just let him know that attacking me won't bring me back. I'm tired of being his little emotional punching bag. I'm tired of paying for his mistakes... it's time he started paying for his own!.
Extremely hurt and irritated

Don't take his phone calls. Don't read his texts.

I've had to do it... I had to get rid of the "toxic THING"... it's not fun, it hurts, and it takes for-EV-ur... but you'll get through it!

Don't let his mental games make you feel like a cheater. You're in the right.

Download Rascal Flatts song Stand and Stand, girl! :)

I know guys like that they have to place the blame on you to justify their actions. Make you the bad guy so they can remain clueless and in denial. You have to block him because every single phone call, every single txt, ever single I-M or email that they do contact you in their mind it is only reinforcing in their simple mind that they WIN.

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I know guys like that they have to place the blame on you to justify their actions. Make you the bad guy so they can remain clueless and in denial. You have to block him because every single phone call, every single txt, ever single I-M or email that they do contact you in their mind it is only reinforcing in their simple mind that they WIN.

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Guys and GIRLS too do the validation game now. I know you meant to include them in that statement.

I was thinking about this. Why else would you hide a picture? This guy is playing house with someone else.

When the cat's away, the mice will be rats.

Cut off ALL communication with the so and so-its a lose-lose situation-walk away-dont let him get to you.He's a pest-I'd call him worse names but I'm too polite!

I guess I need a "call to arms". Keep busy... which should be easy with 2 jobs taking up 70 hrs of my week, and lots of time with my friends and lots of taking out my frustrations on my wonderful guitar! Lol I know I didn't do anything wrong and I know that... so does he. Sometimes I hate that I love him the way I do. He always plays the victum, and I feel so sorry for him... his pain is mine. I guess I've just wanted to save him so badly, and when I feel he's wounded I want to take that away from him. So now that's my own personal struggle. I have to look the "dying puppy" in the face and... walk away. That's the kind of person I am. I hate to know that someone is hurting and I have ANY part in that. Sometimes I think being a musician makes me way too sensitive. Lol.

Yeah play a goodbye blues tune on that guitar

Often depressing events can bring out the most creativity within you

He and I also lost 2 children together... Aiden would've been 2 yrs. Tomorrow. He was stillborn at 7 months, the last child I miscarried... do you think that maybe that contributes to the difficulty in me disconnecting myself from him?

That can be a contributing factor
BUT it is NO excuse to excuse him!

YOU lost them too and you aren't acting like that. If that is his excuse he needs to wake up and realize your lose too.

That is really really sad but doesn't give him a pass and doesn't qualify him for another chance with you.

Well said and so sorry about your babies. But hon you re a nice person he s not on the same page as you. Not even in the same book.

I'm so sorry to say but it sounds like he did cheat but the only question I have why woodnt he of washed the beddings to hide the fact he did cheat... and your so right he does sound like an a$$ holy makes me and other guys look like that too

Some people like the risk and coming off like you have to believe me no matter what.
I don't put anything past a guys motives to his madness.

Why would he wash the sheets? He already thinks I'm stupid. We've broken up so many times, and I've always gone back. He's figured out the game. Rules are: he can do whatever he wants and I'll always forgive him. I'm starting to realize just how one sided our relationship really was.