Most of the time I believe that. (I dumped him) but there are so many good memories.

Threads merged.

Hi.not so much a question but a reflection. I left my partner of two years a couple of weeks ago-his mother runs his life and I couldn't take it anymore. Two days later I rang him thinking we could at least talk and find out if there was a chance of sorting it out. He yelled at me not to argue with him and not to contact him. So I haven't and here I am with my pain and sorrow and my memories of the good times. But-I m not contacting him-so I was doing NC BEFORE I knew what it was!
Thanks to everyone for your help.
Monica

I hope you take the time to read the stickies at the beginning of this forum. There are a lot of good suggestions, and insights, to help you heal, and move beyond your hurt, and pain.

There is a link below, in my signature.

Good for you.
Of course there are going to be painful times but you have to look forward to a better future without him.

Thanks again!stickies are very helpful.

Was doing so well and suddenly fell crashed again when my radio station played two of our songs in a row.hit off button but sad again. N C

Dontcha just hate it, when your up one minute, and down the next? Trust me, that's normal for us emotional human types.

You made me smile! Thank you.will stick to classic fm for music for a bit.:-).

I'm doing the nc I'm trying to keep busy but my head and my heart are out of sync here.
I dislike all the unasked for memories that flood my mind.

Update. 4 weeks or so into N C and not really counting the days.coping mostly and trying to make new friends.aware of all the things that were wrong and the few that were right.have had a number of hang ups from number withheld but not answered the phone.trying to work through what I need to change in order to allow myself a healthy relationship.and there s loads! Been on this great website a lot and read many of your stories-a great help.
All my best wishes to you all.

You have done well so far, just stick to it. I can tell by your other posts, you have learned much, and admire that your willing to pass it on to others. That's truly the healing path, in my book.

Thank you very much.its kind of you-and I'm sticking with both the N C and my trying to help others-its good to give.

A word of advice. Since this morning I ve had at least ten hang up calls from a withheld number.since I don't think that was anybody trying to sell me double glazing-yes this is ENGLAND- I ve changed my numbers.

I think your doing real well Monica and giving some great advice on this site.

Have a look at this site and let me know if you'd be interested in reading it and I can arrange to have a copy emailed to you...

Who Moved My Cheese?

It's a quaint little book but with a very powerful message which I think might help you.

Good Luck
M

M thanks! What a great start to my day getting your message. Yes please would love the book. I'm doing rather well and don't even miss the ex that much-in fact relief is my current state of mind. All the best. Thanks again. Monica

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Ok all sent , let me know if you don't get it :)