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Originally Posted by Wildcat21

Using you for more than sex I think. She probably has low self esteem from bad past relationships.

But, somehting isn't right here. When you first started seeing you - there was no reason for it. You wer what 17 - she was 39ish? Something isn't right.

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Isn't this stautory rape??

Pretty much.

Wish he would respond - he needs help.

With all the arguments and drama, why do you want her back? That's not what love is all about. I don't know exactly what's going on here but it certainly is not a legitimate meaningful love. Consider yourself lucky that it's over and you don't have to deal with the drama and fights any more. It's also not healthy that you "feel you need her in your life." You need to build a life of your own that doesn't revolve around her. Get busy doing things that you enjoy, without her. You don't need her to make you happy. Take a class, get more involved with your career, join a gym or a dance club, take up a new hobby (golf, anyone?) or "dust off" an old one. Remember, a lonely person is often a bored person.

Everyone is so lame on this wow

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Originally Posted by nikki5555

everyone is so lame on this wow

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Care to explain??

Just a youngster who has no idea what's going on in life.

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Originally Posted by blingzback87

Me and my girlfriend broke up the other night from some arguments we have been having and any way the minute she said it was over i started missing in her i been loving her for years and i need her in my life The only thing is, is that so many things has happen in our relationship so bad arguments so much drama and so many chances she has given me i know she love i think she still love me but what can i do to get her back or, and what can i do to make her want to get back with me. what rules i need to play. is there any games i need to play. Or do i just move on which seem so hard to do. Hey i would do anything to be with her again. Anything. Oh she's 41 Im 20. Please help me because I love her.

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It's been a while now, but I'm back! Me and my girl are curently together but the problems still exist. The good news is that I have been keeping myself so busy that I don't have a chance to see her none the less talk to her on the phone so I'm doing better without the headace. I have read everybody's advice thanks for the help. 01/12/006. P.S blingzback87 A.K.A DA KING...

If you can't solve the problems then what kind of relationship could you be having? Your age differences and your dependencies are still there until one of you makes a choice to get healthy.

The age difference is SERIOUSLY worrying...

Not saying it's wrong but perhaps an indication as to why there are so many arguments...

Also,

Women are part of your life and should not become your life. If you were depending too much on her for your own personal happiness, then this is unhealthy for both of you.

You both need time to yourselves, doing things you can do without each other like seeing your own friends, your own hobbies.

Sharing is good but when you depend on one peson in your life, the other peson may start to resent this.

You shouldn't be with this woman. You're too young to even know this.

Actually - it was very ILLEGAL what she was doing to you when you were firs ttogehter.

She was a mother figure to you for a good part of your life.

This is really creepy - I hear bango music.

NORMAL 40 year old women would never even cosnider datin ga 20 year old. I assuem this lady has many issues/problems. Maturity levels should not even be clsoeto one another.

You need to just move on if she does not want to be with you she is old enough to be your mother so shouldn't you think she know's what she wants so I would just move on if I were you