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  • Jul 22, 2009, 06:20 AM
    N0help4u

    While her friend is here...
    So take a back seat and wait it out.

    I don't know what answers you are looking for when you say she got back together for the wrong reasons only to go on to justifying being back with her by saying she is in love with you.

    She sees that she can say and do whatever she wants and you will simply go along with it so she is going to continue to pull your puppet strings and see how far she can push it.
    If that is what you call love go right ahead.
  • Jul 22, 2009, 06:31 AM
    reckless

    Yeah you're right, I'll wait it out. It's 2 weeks before her friend leaves. She'll need me back again.

    I have high hopes for this date. The only thing I can see going wrong is her backing out.

    I don't really care why she got back with me. All I care about is the way we feel for each other. I feel like this is just a rough spot and we'll make it through this.
  • Jul 22, 2009, 06:39 AM
    N0help4u

    I wasn't TELLING you to wait it out
    I was saying so you are going along with this ?

    As in WHY would you do that?
    I can see her saying she is busy and doesn't have time because she is with a friend when you call and ask her if you can get together but to come right out right off the bat and make it sound like a need space break up I wouldn't be so likely to take that very well.

    Learn the hard way if she is just playing you.
  • Jul 22, 2009, 07:23 AM
    reckless

    Well she hasn't seen her friend for a year so I should have just left her alone with her. We were already planning to go on the date before we broke up again. She was trying to accommodate time for me, I just got angry and felt like she was ignoring me when she was just busy with her friend.

    I'm going to wait it out for sure. I messed up this time, not her.
  • Jul 22, 2009, 08:53 AM
    talaniman
    Wake up, she is back to using you when she has nothing better to do, and if she cared she would include you in what makes her happy. The sad part is you bend over, and allow it. That's being an emotional tampon.

    Never make a person a priority in your life, while allowing them to make you an option in theirs.
  • Jul 22, 2009, 09:07 AM
    liz28

    I guess you don't stand by what you said in your original post "it isn't good to get back with your ex". Then read the list you wrote to why she got back with you--not good.

    If you and her keep having the same problems and the two of you are not overcomming them then "why do you stay or what to stay with her?"

    Get out of the puppy mode and see things for what they really are instead of how it should be.
  • Jul 22, 2009, 09:09 AM
    overayear

    It sounds like your relationship is toxic. She is def using you and you are letting her. She knows that she has you no matter what she dose or says. I know its hard because of you feel for her, but she doesn't feel the same way for you. It sounds like if stay with her you are going to get hurt again. Why do that to yourself?
  • Jul 22, 2009, 01:01 PM
    Romefalls19

    Wow you are content with letting this girl come and go as she pleases. You call her, she gets angry and breaks up with you, her friend leaves and you will be right there waiting. So how little of a bone does she have to throw you before you start running in the other direction!
  • Jul 22, 2009, 01:07 PM
    reckless

    At this point no one can convince me into not loving her. Now I just want to know what to do to get her back on the date that we'll be going on.
  • Jul 22, 2009, 01:20 PM
    overayear

    No one is saying for you not to love her. What we are trying to show you is that a different point of view on the situation. If so many people are having the same view and you are the only one that sees it different then maybe you should take a closer look. Be honest with yourself. If you keep this up she will never respect you as a man which will in turn mess up any chance of having a successful relationship with her (which I don't feel is a good idea anyways). You are digging your own grave. I personally believe that you are setting yourself up to get hurt again. Smart people learn from their mistakes and wise people learn from other people's mistakes.
  • Jul 22, 2009, 01:23 PM
    s_cianci
    RUN, do not walk, away from her.
  • Jul 22, 2009, 01:26 PM
    N0help4u
    ***N0help4u agrees: oh so sorry s_ciani I disagree: he is in it for the rude awakening so there is no running away from her
    Sarcasim intended

    You can love her ALL you want but the fact is if she wants to treat you like a second thought instead of wanting to be proud to stand by you then you may be having a lot of wishful thinking on your part and nothing more.

    One minute you are saying you are back together and love each other. The next you are saying you love her and hope you can win her back.
    Right now it looks to us like any thing she says or does that sounds positive to your ears is going to be getting false hopes up for you.

    You go out with her and you see where she wants to lead you. We'll be here waiting to hear how it all turns out
  • Jul 22, 2009, 01:26 PM
    s_cianci
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by reckless View Post
    then what do i do to win her back. it's 4 am and i seriously cannot sleep.

    Listen to us ; you DON'T, I repeat, DON'T want her back. I wouldn't want her back and I don't even know her! Just reading your posts has me totally turned off to her!
  • Jul 22, 2009, 01:29 PM
    N0help4u
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by s_cianci View Post
    Listen to us ; you DON'T, I repeat, DON'T want her back. I wouldn't want her back and I don't even know her! Just reading your posts has me totally turned off to her!

    ***as s_ciani wastes his breath and vainly types away :(
  • Jul 22, 2009, 01:35 PM
    talaniman

    Explain to me how you can love someone more than you love yourself? That ain't love.

    No self respecting man would be looking to get a partner like that back, they would vanish, and celebrate their freedom, by exploring BETTER options and opportunities.

    You don't win someone back, they have to want to be with you.
  • Jul 22, 2009, 01:40 PM
    slapshot_oi

    He did admit to self-masochism.
  • Jul 22, 2009, 01:48 PM
    Torrid13

    Did he admit to liking being a puppet, too?
  • Jul 22, 2009, 01:50 PM
    crisluvsu731
    I have dated my ex's a couple time, and they are an ex for a reason. Typically if it doesn't work out the first time, chances are, it won't every work. How old are you two?
  • Jul 22, 2009, 03:02 PM
    Romefalls19
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by reckless View Post
    at this point no one can convince me into not loving her. now i just want to know what to do to get her back on the date that we'll be going on.

    Sorry but I for one will not be helping you "get her back" because unlike you, I don't think anyone should continue to run head first into a wall. But I'm sure you could try magazine cut out of letters to form a love letter, or stand outside her window with music playing, if that doesn't work, keep calling her phone nonstop.
  • Jul 22, 2009, 03:11 PM
    liz28

    Reckless you have a lot to learn and sadly your one of those people who must learn the hard way.

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