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Originally Posted by UglyChick009

Rejection? I was rejected throughout high school! I made teh first moves because guys WOULDN?T APPROACH ME! And It wasn't because I was "whining" about not being beautiful, i never talk about this unless it's online. I was just myself, trying to be nice, and what happened? I got called ugly, I was crushed and the guys went off with the beautiful airheads who dumped them in a week to go for the next guy. So rejection goes for both sides, I was rejected at least ten times in highschool alone. As a matter of fact, it wasn't until I graduated and met an older guy (my boyfriend) that I got someone interested in me.

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OMG, what a pity party.

I am beautiful inside and out, you know how many times I was rejected in high school... too many to count. High school is a horrible experience that ENDS, so let it go.

Can we talk about depression/anger issues since you aren't rational about yourself esteem issues?

You indicate that yourself is "trying to be nice" then maybe you have multiple personalities... you are coming across very abrasive, angry, stubborn, and blameful of others. Who wants to help you when you are like that?

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Originally Posted by UglyChick009

If I were as beautiful as Megan Fox then maybe I wouldn't feel so ugly.

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Don't tell KC, but Megan Fox isn't pretty without all the airbrushing and make-up either. It's her job everyday to get up and be beautiful for us, do you know how badly she gets rejected when she leaves the house without make-up on or worse yet, with a pimple!!

It's definitely an ugly attitude. I would take a beautiful attitude and an average girl over a Megan Fox and ugly attitude ANYDAY.

You know,I'm going to agree with you on one point.. we are not all beautiful human beings..

People do and say horrible and nasty things that have lifelong repercussions.

BUT.. theres always a but.. what makes a child who has been burned beautiful.. their courage,their heart and the love they show,and their face... because love only sees with eyes of love.
Love of self,that has eluded you.

You are smart,intelligent,artistic woman.. and you can't see your beauty.

I'm no help to you.
Moving on.

Successful people radiate self-esteem not self disgust. And until you realize that you will just be at the same point in your life.

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Originally Posted by Justwantfair

Don't tell KC, but Megan Fox isn't pretty without all the airbrushing and make-up either. It's her job everyday to get up and be beautiful for us, do you know how badly she gets rejected when she leaves the house without make-up on or worse yet, with a pimple!!!

It's definately an ugly attitude. I would take a beautiful attitude and an average girl over a Megan Fox and ugly attitude ANYDAY.

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You mind your tongue!! :mad:

Here I'm being angry, but in real life I try being nice, most of the time. The Internet is great because you're anonymous, so you don't feel embarrassed about expressing your feelings... that's why I don't lash out in public. I am nice with people in real life... I need to get rid of these feelings since no one would understand, and besides I'd be too ashamed to admit I feel like this to anyone who would care.

If you are ashamed to admit how you feel, how can you possibly think you are alone, that men don't share these insecurities?

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Originally Posted by kctiger

You mind your tongue!!! :mad:

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It was just my jealousy talking, I didn't mean it. :eek:

This has nothing to do with looks. It is about your own self worth. I was always told how pretty and funny I was and never believed anyone and pushed a lot of people away...
Even the prettiest of people, believe they're ugly.
You have to believe in yourself and so what! You don't look like Kate Moss. Who gets the right to say who is beautiful or not?
Everyone is beautiful in there own unique way.

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Originally Posted by Justwantfair

If you are ashamed to admit how you feel, how can you possibly think you are alone, that men don't share these insecurities?

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I guess maybe I'm too naïve... I just see so many ads for creams, lipo, etc. etc... directed at women... there are mostly nude women around, not men... in magazines and such. I don't know about Cosmopolitan because I honestly have never had one in my hands (not that I'd want to read one, I hear it's pure trash). I reckon men have insecurities, like money... my boyfriend sometimes gets insecure because he feels like he can't buy me enough stuff, but well, I'm not a gold digger type, so I'm not concerned... but I guess I just thought guys had other types of insecurities, like financial, who's stronger, who has the best car, boys don't cry, etc. But it never occurred to me that looks were one. Not even penis size... I've never met a woman who truly cared.

I don't know... I just thought they dealt with other kinds of problems.

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Originally Posted by UglyChick009

I guess maybe I'm too naive... I just see so many ads for creams, lipo, etc., etc... directed at women... there are mostly nude women around, not men... in magazines and such. I don't know about Cosmopolitan because I honestly have never had one in my hands (not that I'd want to read one, I hear it's pure trash). I reckon men have insecurities, like money... my boyfriend sometimes gets insecure because he feels like he can't buy me enough stuff, but well, I'm not a gold digger type, so I'm not concerned... but I guess I just thought guys had other types of insecurities, like financial, who's stronger, who has the best car, boys don't cry, etc. But it never occured to me that looks were one. Not even penis size... I've never met a woman who truly cared.

I don't know... I just thought they dealt with other kinds of problems.

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Adverstiment is to entise THAT IS THEIR job, half the people don't use those products, and thank god for Photoshop half of the people, are not all that you think they are. Those photos go through series of editing, and airbrushing, I know. I modeled, and I am far from perfect But everyday I think of myself as the next best thing since sliced bread.

If I didn't care how I looked I can promise you NO girl would date me... PROMISE! We have to try and look good too, we can't just walk around in wife beaters and a beer gut hanging out expecting to get a ladies number... world doesn't work that way.

We all share all of the same kind of insecurities. Men are probably even more so concerned with looks because they are the responsible ones for asking for dates, making the first move, proposals.

Imagine how much they worry about rejection. If you have always been this walled up, your feelings probably show on the outside making you less approachable. Confidence is addicting and reassuring and it's the confident people that stand out in a crowd.

I hope you can take some time and reread the thoughts on this thread.

The moments I feel the most confident are:

a) When I'm in front of my class doing a presentation about something I really know about.

b) When I'm on stage playing with the band.

c) Strangely enough, when I'm having sex with my boyfriend. I may not have the best body, but I have really WORKED on my skills.


The moments I feel the least confident are:

a) When I'm in the beach, in a bikini.

b) Walking around campus/the street/the mall, seeing how there are a lots of girls flaunting the goods (I live in a place where we practically have no winter, so... ).

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Originally Posted by UglyChick009

The moments I feel the most confident are:

a) When I'm in front of my class doing a presentation about something I really know about.

b) When I'm on stage playing with the band.

c) Strangely enough, when I'm having sex with my boyfriend. I may not have the best body, but I have really WORKED on my skills.


The moments I feel the least confident are:

a) When I'm in the beach, in a bikini.

b) Walking around campus/the street/the mall, seeing how there are a lots of girls flaunting the goods (I live in a place where we practically have no winter, so...).

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Sounds normal to me.
I still know that who I am, makes what they show look like garbage. It might get that first look, but I will get exactly what I want, when I want it.

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Originally Posted by Justwantfair

Sounds normal to me.
I still know that who I am, makes what they show look like garbage. It might get that first look, but I will get exactly what I want, when I want it.

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Yeah I guess you're right. Good advice, thanks.

KC... your responses are CLASSIC!!

Yes UglyChick, guys have to make themselves look good to. We do care. If I didn't care how I looked when I went out anywhere, I would just wake up in the morning, pick up the clothes I wore yesterday off the floor and walk out the door.

Most of the time this only happens the morning after I hit the bar and crash over someone's house...

Every other time, I a least shower... geez give us some credit!

OK jmw, I NEVER said guys don't have to take care about HYGIENE... because that's what a shower is, or shaving, etc... hygiene. But ther'es not as much pressure to look good. Like women have to be busty, thin and gorgeous... look around! Pick up a Playboy, and see... that's men's ideal. Perky boobs, small waist, round perky butt, long legs...

Hygiene doesn't equal good looks.