Originally Posted by valinors_sorrow
You'll have lots of great friends, Wonder.
Besides, I think its human nature that unless there is a big exterior motive like children or mutual employment, most people are not capable of setting aside enough of what happened to make friendship really possible. It totally denies the sense of hurt, disappointment and loss that stays with you for a far longer time than you might realise -- it just gets more and more muted. At best we seem to strike a kind of oddly once-intimate but now distant or guarded acquaintanceship with each other as ex's. And that's a long way from friendship, in my book. That and most people, I think, decide that this is someone who got to their heart, it didn't work out and it never will. Another shot at it will make the same outcome, so that makes a lot of motive for guarding their hearts too. Friends are not people you have good reason to guard your heart from. This in not to say an ex is an enemy nor should they be treated badly. Trashing an ex is an copperplate engraved invitation to bad karma LOL. Its just there are friends, there are lovers and well, there are ex's. Capice?