Don't make a big deal over it. Act normal and if she does go see that guy then when she comes back, turn her down then walk out of her life in style.
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Don't make a big deal over it. Act normal and if she does go see that guy then when she comes back, turn her down then walk out of her life in style.
Don't make a big deal out of this guy thing, you will only make it worse. By acting like youi care about it, you will be pushing her further away from you, and closer to him since she will feel like she can't have him. By acting like you don't care she will start to wonder why that is and will think you are moving on, and it is more likely to draw her back in.
If I were you, I'd take advantage of the 2 weeks off. Go party with your friends, have a blast, meet new people. Don't sit around count the days.
I started dating my boyfriend when he was on such a break. He never looked back. His ex eventually found her soulmate too.
Just me, if a female dumped me to see someone else, I wouldn't care whether she came back, or not, I would be threw with her.
Ain't that much love in the world, for me to disrespect myself, by taking someone back who thought she could just dump me, and think she can just come back, when her plans fell through.
I must have missed the merged threads that mentioned your girlfriend's old boyfriend. It reminded me of my own story. To make a long story short, your girlfriend might be feeling "trapped" because she doesn't know the status of your relationship, and she has another guy waiting in the wings and doesn't know what to do.
In my story, the girl went out with the other guy, hoping that it would make her boyfriend jealous. It didn't, it set him free to fall in love with someone less manipulating... me.
This reminds me of the story of an old lady who was cat sitting for a friend who was on vacation. Well, the cat was run over the first day they were gone. The old lady didn't want to come right out and tell them that their Precious was dead, she wanted to soften the blow, so when they called she said" Precious is on the roof and we can't get her down" two more days past, and the people called again, she said " well Precious came down but she got hurt and won't eat, we're taking her to the vet." Then when they came home from their vacation they weren't totally surprised by the death of Precious.
This is what I think that people do to each other when they say " let's take a break". Basically what she's telling you is that your relationship is on the roof and we can't get it down.
Good luck to you, take this break and don't call her, or contact her in any way. The best thing for you is concentrate your energy on moving forward from here. I know it's not easy, it never was for me either, but time will heal this. Go get dressed up and go to the mall and flirt with all the pretty girls, it'll help your ego and spirit.
It is a great analogy, but experience here on the forum leads me to believe the story would end differently if it paralleled actual relationships...
Most people would come back and may be "softened" by the blow of the cat being dead, but STILL would spend weeks/months/years trying revive the dead thing when it clearly is fine just being... well, dead.
I totally agree with you! Breaks always lead to a break-up.. don't bother yourself waiting 2 weeks then she'll back telling you how much she missed because you ignored her , u'll be happy for a short while then she asks for another break and so on!
If she could stay away 1 day without u.. then it's over!! Don't wait and don't bother yourself thinking a lot!
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