It sounds like you are a little insecure. If she is giving you reasons not to trust her than that's when you have to cut it off but if you have no reasons then just be confident, after all she picked you right?

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im only 17 .... I guess it is not good for me to be with my girlfriend since she is so perfect and so gorgeous while I'm trying to get better?

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I've been dating her 5 years on and off

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You started at 12? Maybe that's enough on this relationship.

Hey I got extremely down on myself today , I was really upset and did not feel like doing anything , going to work , school... And this is why , I have always been worried about my girl being to pretty for me , or me worrying that I love her too much , we have dated for the past 5 years on and off , and things have been really rocky the last 2 years she did some ty things but so did I, I'm not going to go in detail , but she still doesn't have my trust and lies about some things... I was having a brutal day and offered to walk her too school she said no so it was fine . First thing I see is her laughing and talking to a player of the school, who has tried to get with her before , I was really upset and mad , did not go to the rest of school, then called her after school , she said she needed to save her minutes and she would call me when she gets home (5 min walk) I waited 20 minutes and called her , she awnsered in her pocket and I heard her and a guy talking... didn't here much all I heard was her say I don't know why I'm hot in October , then a guys voice talking with her... I then hung up and called her again , she said hello... I was in tears and asked who she was with , she said no one , I then exposed her and was pleading for the truth , it ended up to be a guy she lied about kissing for 6 months and when I asked her 300 times... she said she had to give him back his phone and he was their for 5 minutes... did he really leave? Was he still their? Should I just get past this girl who hurts me everyday , while breaking my heart at least once ever 2 months (breaking me down).. How do I get over her ? I love her so much sometimes , but I don't like getting hurt this much... I've tried to break up with her before , but miss her so much , love her so much , and hate her being single.. please help

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On and off relationships are extremely difficult. If you haven't solved the problems that broke you up in the first place, then you shouldn't be getting back together.

It sounds as she doesn't give your feelings much thought. If your willing to state that your sensitive and that you have trust issues to all of us. She must as well know this about you. Im most instances if you think something is going on, then it most likely is. Given your age this might not be the case. It could be that she is just very personable and popular. Your best bet is to lay it on the table. Tell you how you feel (no crying tho) and see how she answers you. Your young,( this is a good thing) look around you, there are lots of girls and plenty of time. If you don't like the way this relationship is going, you could always end it. Don't put yourself through any extra drama.

Until you accept your thing with this girl is over, you will always be miserable, and everything you try will be a torture to you. Keep your dignity, and self respect, and leave her alone.

I don't necessarily think you need therapy or help in a big way like others suggest. She is a beautiful girl. Girls that have model-like looks, go clubbing constantly, party all the time, and flirt all the time are the classic mold of a cheater.

Your mistrust is perfectly justified. I have not yet once met a girl who fits this mold who wasn't a worthless liar. I recommend to find yourself a girl who may not be as hot, but has more of the important qualities.. such as being trustworthy, honest, real, respectful to you.