Ask Me Help Desk - All right, what did I do wrong?

Well first thing is this happened two months ago. But I'll be happy to update you on the nothing that happened.

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Originally Posted by caretaker

First you say "this woman has been interested in me", then you say you're not losing any sleep over her.

Yep. I lost no sleep and she was interested in me. You are correct on both counts. Your score so far is two. Unfortunately, Your scoring stops here.

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Originally Posted by caretaker

You don't really say how long you strung her along.

That's pretty funny. I guess you didn't read my original post. I didn't string her along at all, I talked to her boss on day because her boss and I are friends. A day or two later she stopped by my place of employment. She hinted that she was interested and I at that time was being cocky and funny. She came to see me a maybe two or three times more, I don't remember it was 2 months ago. We went to lunch, then the thing happened that I posted about. After she walked out on me she came back a few days later and didn't bring it up. She came by a few times after that but I was busy and then the end of the season came and we went our separate ways.

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Originally Posted by caretaker

And if you're not losing any sleep, why do you care what you "did wrong"?

Because I like to learn from my mistakes. Sometimes I like to find out if they even were mistakes to begin with.

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If I knew who she was I would applaud her for walking away from you.

I'll give her the message since I still have her number and you don't.

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I hope she keeps walking.

While I'm sorry to report that she walked right back to me and acted like the entire event never took place. In fact it was I who kind of pulled back. The end of my season was coming and things were getting hectic so I didn't really follow up on it.

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Originally Posted by caretaker

You sound like a player, and you sound like you're kind of proud of it.

Really? You clearly have not one clue. Smart . Yes! Proud of it? You bet!

Cheers

Could it be Chuff, you didn't do anything wrong? Sometimes we worry too much about making mistakes and as you say we learn from them , and can sometimes correct those mistakes. Its nobodies fault that you and the lady didn't get married and have kids by now.(joke?) I think your actions were correct and glad you didn't just rush in... and you have her number. Who's to say its over?

Hmmm, I think where the line was that you crossed Chuff was in smelling her breath to begin with and it falls apart from there. Although it's a tiny faux pas, I don't think, as absurd as this sounds, that the two of you were familiar enough for something that intimate and it is an intimate thing to some people, me included I have to admit! LOL I would bet that very action confused and flustered her and therefore left her without a good comeback. Dogs may sniff each others butts and for good reason LOL but I really think sniffing for humans is a pretty intimate deal. Even the men who smell me when we hug trigger something for me. If you care to salvage it, I would advise that you go a wee bit little slower with physical contact or invading personal space with her now that you know she flusters easily. Just as there is a fine line between confidence and cockiness, so there is between, for lack of better words here, thrilling someone and scaring someone. She could have easily been left thinking her breath wasn't up to par for a kiss and who would take news like that well? But if it's minor enough to be ignored, ignore it.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Could it be Chuff, you didn't do anything wrong?

Yes it could. I believe that to be the case.