Look, I think it's really about what you are able to deal with.

It is great to remain friends with your ex if you can. But for some people it's too sad and it does inhibit healing and moving on. It also depends on the circumstances.

When I broke up with my ex, we continued to see each other. It was a mutual decision to separate and I felt enormously sad, although I knew, without doubt that it was over.

We were, after a while able to talk through the things that happened, and I think that we both found this comforting.

We remain close friends to this day and I don't regret for a moment having been in a relationship with him. It was the friendship that saw us through.

I stayed friends with my X and we ended up dating for 2 more years. Then we broke up again and I stayed friends and we ended up having sex for another year. Then we stopped talking and a few months later we ended up back together and eventually after a long time we are separated now. If I would have stayed NC the first time we broke up, I would be happier now.

What is the point of staying friends except for leaving the door open for a second, third, or fourth chance. Do you want to try and date him again>? If not, then go NC. If you do then stay friends and you will have one of two things happen. 1) you will date again. Or 2) you will meet a new guy, he will be jealous, or he will meet a new girl and you will be jealous.

now lets say you go no contact.. when he meets a new girl (its inevitable) will you know? Even if you find out, you will be mad but hey.. you haven't talked to him in (insert months here) and its like, o well. But if you remain friends, and you are in his circle, then you all of a sudden will go from being friends to, "oh i can't hang out, my new girlfriend doesn't like me hanging out alone" or even worse, you'll hang out with him and his new girl and watch them make out all day.

If you met a new guy would he want you to have contact with your X? I know that if I meet a girl and she is in contact with a recent X and they are buddies it makes me feel like she isn't over him yet...

I can only agree with what others have said so far.

I would suggest cancelling your wow subscription. It used to be my ex's & my little escape to try and interact with each other as we lived about 2 hours apart from each other.
Being on it just killed me after I logged in a day after we broke up, so I cancelled. 4 years of playing time (and pretty hardcore at that), gone, and I had nothing to show for it. I just logged into the account page and pressed that cancel button.
I haven't missed it at all, and it's really opened my eyes & my mind. The game really is a great way to escape, but I feel so much more alive and my thoughts & imagination have blossomed since I've quit. Escaping from your problems rarely solves them.

My boyfriend suddenly started ignoring me. We have been together for one and a half years. For the past two weeks he just suddenly went NC with me - and deliberately ignores my phone calls and voice messages.

During these two weeks, it was my birthday and he sent me a text: "Happy birthday love!"

That was it. Now he is back to ignoring me completely. What does this mean?

It means he's a jerk. Get a new boyfriend.

Did he officially break up with you? Did he say the relationship was over?

Something doesn't seem right. You two are still dating but he won't talk to you?

Just stop contacting him, it's over, move on.

No official break up - though we did argue right before he started ignoring me.

But he said he still wanted to be with me during the end of the argument. But now we are technically dating but he's ignored me completely.

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No official break up - though we did argue right before he started ignoring me.

But he said he still wanted to be with me during the end of the argument. But now we are technically dating but he's ignored me completely.

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You don't have to put up with this, this is ridiculous and not a relationship, but a power trip.

Don't contact him, don't take his calls, move on, you can do better.

If you do end up talking to him then tell him it's over, that you will not be with someone who thinks he can treat you like this.

Really, you're better off without someone like this. What's next? He's a jerk. Move on.

I wouldn't put up with this, leave him be and allow this immature jerk to play the games with someone else

Agreed. That's messed up. I would just contact him whatever way possible (phone,text,email,mail) and just say it's over. Don't listen to his response or BS if he does respond. Start NC right after you clearly end things... that way you'll prevent any drama after you truly move on and eventually start dating someone else.

He's just playing the power trip game with you. He wants you to contact him first. But it sounds really petty and jerkish. You don't need this kind of attitude in your life. Dump and move on...

Sounds imature to me. You had a fight before he started to ignore you? Well he must be pouting over it then and being childish and is waiting for you to come crawling to him. Couples fight. You get over it and move on. You don't ignore your partner. Just keep the NC going and find someone else. If he ever comes around tell him you assumed it was over since he didn't bother calling anymore. But maybe a quick text telling him its over would be better.

Dump him, all in favor say I

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My ex did exactley the same, he would text me and I would reply and he wouldn't text back for days sometimes?? So then I was texting him asking him why was he not responding and he didn't respond to that text either!! Then one day out of the blue he would text me. Its called mind games and its very unhealthy, for the person and move on - that's what I'm trying to do at the moment

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Boys run away from their problems while men face them. He ran with his tail between his legs over an agrument?

It sounds like he want nothing to do with you or he wants to see you beg and chase--don't.

Time to play follow the leader by doing the same and moving on in your life.

Ignore him, his friendship is not what you need. No Contact, No Reply, No Confusion.

You are limiting your life's strengthening experiences by staying with him.

To change back to your old self you have to support yourself.

Why are you accepting his behavior?

Its so easy for him to ignore you. I wish it was as easy for you to stop communication with him.

I just think you truly deserve much better than him and his actions… And there is much better…

Update:

So far, I've been completely ignoring him.. no phone calls no texts.. nothing. And he's continuing to ignore me.

I talked to a mutual friend though and he says that my boyfriend just doesn't know how to handle the situation (I'm his first girlfriend) and that he's just lazy to contact me. Also, he works full time and is always busy.

I was thinking about just sending a text saying that it's over.. is this a good idea? Or should I just continue with NC