Yeah, I think I'll just ignore him. He sent her a text this morning as well saying

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I was just trying to be nice. No good deed goes unpunished I guess

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I was thinking about responding with: "No, when I come down there I usually like to enjoy quality time with my wonderful girlfriend"



He'll go away... I hope.

Be the bigger man. He has nothing to lose in this situation. You on the other hand might lose your cool if you start this back and forth with him. Your girlfriend asked you to message him but what if it gets to a point where you lose your temper in front of your GF and she doesn't like it. Just ignore him he will go away.

Don't feed into it my man. When I first started dating my fiancé, we met at my part time job. There were two different guys who would do everything they could to get her to go out on a date with them, they would try to make me angry by talking to her and smile at me. Then the one backed off, the other started talking crap behind my back saying how I stole his girl(they never dated or even exchanged phone numbers), I was a pu*** and he could kick my arse all over the store. I sat back and found it amusing because I knew who she came home with. I could have throttled this kid, I mean throttled, he was wickedly overweight and never saw a gym before, myself, regional hockey player that could have gone pro(if not for concussions), worked out every day and took boxing and MMA classes. I just chose to enjoy the fact that I was with her, and still am. The kid eventually stopped talking because it didn't bother me.

It's not you who can solve this but instead your girl. All you can give right now is your trust and love for her.

Your girl should be the one to talk to her ex from stop communicating with her. Better ask her to change her number. Tell her to keep ignoring her ex. Anyway it's the ex who is wasting his time he'll be tired after all.

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Originally Posted by Romefalls19

Don't feed into it my man. When I first started dating my fiance, we met at my part time job. There were two different guys who would do everything they could to get her to go out on a date with them, they would try to make me angry by talking to her and smile at me. Then the one backed off, the other started talking crap behind my back saying how I stole his girl(they never dated or even exchanged phone numbers), I was a pu*** and he could kick my arse all over the store. I sat back and found it amusing because I knew who she came home with. I could have throttled this kid, I mean throttled, he was wickedly overweight and never saw a gym before, myself, regional hockey player that could have gone pro(if not for concussions), worked out every day and took boxing and MMA classes. I just chose to enjoy the fact that I was with her, and still am. The kid eventually stopped talking because it didn't bother me.

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I agree with you completely. He's a scrawny but just a little taller than me. I'm 5' 11 and about 200lbs. The guy is skinnier than she is and could easily be taken down. I am also a hockey player raised in southern California. I work out regularly and I know I could easily take him, but I'm not really a fighter unless he's the one starting it.

I do have to smile though when I know that I trust her and love her, so there's really no issue. I don't think I stated it before but her and I live an hour apart and they live 15 min from each other. I trust her enough though and she's going to continue to ignore him.

Maybe I should just send him this link ;)

YouTube - Relient K- My Girl's Ex-Boyfriend

If you trust your girl, then he isn't even an issue. Let him continue living his fantasy life, he enjoys it there

This "guy" bothers me... something inside of me doesn't like the fact that he won't go away... and when you responded with that note on Facebook, you added fuel to the fire...

1. MAKE SURE your girlfriend IGNORES him and doesn't respond
2. YOU make SURE that YOU do not do anything to add fuel to this fire...
3. If he still persists, I would call my local police dept and just talk to them... that way you have something on record and they may even have a suggestion or two for you...
4. Keep in mind that your girlfriend needs to be sure and keep an eye open when she comes and goes... that's just common sense anyway, but especially now...
5. She lives an hour away from you... make sure her living situation is safe...

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This "guy" bothers me....something inside of me doesn't like the fact that he won't go away.....and when you responded with that note on Facebook, you added fuel to the fire.....

1. MAKE SURE your girlfriend IGNORES him and doesn't respond
2. YOU make SURE that YOU do not do anything to add fuel to this fire.....
3. If he still persists, I would call my local police dept and just talk to them....that way you have something on record and they may even have a suggestion or two for you.....
4. Keep in mind that your girlfriend needs to be sure and keep an eye open when she comes and goes.....that's just common sense anyway, but especially now.....
5. She lives an hour away from you.....make sure her living situation is safe....

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Yeah, I know I shouldn't have said anything on Facebook but I felt the need to protect her in a non-violent way. She nor I is going to respond to anything he does via text or calling.

I'm 20 and she's 19, so she's still living with both of her parents. Her dad is about 6' 5 and her brother who lives at home is almost 7 feet tall, 300lbs. I have no worries about the safety of her living situation :)


Update. Today she went on a bike ride near her house at the local park. When she was coming back into her neighborhood she was waiting at a 4 way intersection. She had to go straight across and was on the left side of it. As she was looking for traffic she noticed him in his daddy's BMW as he turned right by her. He put up one finger (the index) and gave her a not so pleasant face. She has no idea why he was coming from that direction since his house is in the direction that he was turning and the downtown area with all the shops was in the opposite direction he was coming from.

Coincidence? I don't know, but if he keeps popping up the law is getting involved.

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Update. Today she went on a bike ride near her house at the local park. When she was coming back into her neighborhood she was waiting at a 4 way intersection. She had to go straight across and was on the left side of it. As she was looking for traffic she noticed him in his daddy's BMW as he turned right by her. He put up one finger (the index) and gave her a not so pleasant face. She has no idea why he was coming from that direction since his house is in the direction that he was turning and the downtown area with all the shops was in the opposite direction he was coming from.

Coincidence? I dunno, but if he keeps popping up the law is getting involved.

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First of all, let me say, that her Dad and brother would be anough to scare ME away... lol...

2nd- Yes, you are right, if he keeps popping up, you need to call the authorities... now, he seems angry (flipping her the bird)... hopefully, he will just go away now...

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First of all, let me say, that her Dad and brother would be anough to scare ME away....lol....

2nd- Yes, you are right, if he keeps popping up, you need to call the authorities....now, he seems angry (flipping her the bird)....hopefully, he will just go away now....

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It wasn't the bird, it was his index finger just like the "cool kid" way of saying hey. He'll go away just like the plague, hopefully it just doesn't take as long.

Sheesh... I thought my summer was going to be relaxing and enjoyable!

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It wasn't the bird, it was his index finger just like the "cool kid" way of saying hey. He'll go away just like the plague, hopefully it just doesn't take as long.

Sheesh...I thought my summer was going to be relaxing and enjoyable!

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Oooops, my bad, <looking at my hand>... Ohhhhh the INDEX finger..!. lol... :p

Man, doesn't this guy have any respect for himself? Why would a guy make himself out to look so desperate?. That would CERTAINLY not be the kind of guy I would like...

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Oooops, my bad, <looking at my hand>.....Ohhhhh the INDEX finger....!....lol.....:p

Man, doesn't this guy have any respect for himself? Why would a guy make himself out to look so desperate?.....That would CERTAINLY not be the kind of guy I would like.......

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He has probably just run out of girls to screw over and is starting back at the top, only this time around she see's what kind of person he really is and knows what she has found with me.

There are endless stories I can tell about this guy that show how insecure he is with himself. It's quite sad, actually.

Little bit of an update.

A few weeks ago she was weeding through some old Facebook photos and deleted some that he was in.

He sent her a text message yesterday saying "OH COME ON, I liked some of those."


Kind of weird how he keeps tabs on old old pictures and stuff lol.