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Hi Rani,

When you love a person you start expecting more from that person. Like you frame a mindset that the other person should be the way you like or expect. When the other person does not respond to it you get angry, out of which you start developing hatred.
So do not expect.

Regards,

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Thanks for your advice dear but as far my feelings are concerned I love him very much that I can do anything for him.. our relation is just similar to the one shows between aamir khan & student(sorry I forget the name of that child)in a movie taare jamin par.. but the problem is he consider me a normal friend and for me he is my whole world... I was never expect anything for him in our 3 year relationship but it hurts me when I do not get same vibration from that side... may be it is my expectation.. but in a relationship this much I can expect... am I wrong dear??

Yes your wrong! He doesn't feel as you do, and no matter how you feel about it, he doesn't want what you want. It happens, but you will heal and find someone who does match your feelings, and be happy. It's a matter of time, and a good life lesson to learn, about coping with your own feelings.

Dear Rani,
Don't get upset.Don't think about that person who nevers care u.

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Hello

I really do not why I am scared of marriage. Everything is fine in my family and I had never seen any unsuccessful married couple.but still I am so scared of this relationship that when my parents looks for any boy.. my mood gets off,feel like I have no energy in my body,everything looks very dark and dull. Sometimes I thought I do not have faith in this relationship.I am 26 year old girl.even all my younger cousins get married and have babies still I am not mentally prepared why I really really do not know... please help me.. this fear effecting every phase of life.

What exactly are you afraid of with marriage?

What country are you from?

Are you afraid of marriage because you can't pick the guy you want to marry only your parents can? This would make me jittery to.

Some people take longer to feel comfortable with marriage. Sometimes, marriage is not for everyone.

I think you're putting too much pressure on yourself (especially since you're cousins are getting married) by forcing yourself to be comfortable with marriage.

There's no rush. Just let things flow.

Be patient with yourself as you just got dumped.

I am facing same problem

I am facing same problem.I am also using net because I want to forget him.
Bye

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Hello

i really do not why i am scared of marriage. everything is fine in my family and i had never seen any unsuccessful married couple.but still i am so scared of this relationship that when my parents looks for any boy..my mood gets off,feel like i have no energy in my body,everything looks very dark and dull. sometimes i thought i do not have faith in this relationship.i am 26 year old girl.even all my younger cousins get married and have babies still i am not mentally prepared why i really really do not know...please help me..this fear effecting each and every phase of life.

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Don't even worry about that yet. You still haven't found anyone you possibly might get married to.