Ask Me Help Desk - Me my girlfriend her mom and the cops

Man I didn't know I messed up that bad.chuff and romefalls we started kissing and things strted going further but I didn't put anything in I didn't lick anything and she didn't suck anything.but when people found out they sain the same things it was bound to happen and was going to happen.I didn't think I was going to she's a virgain and I haven't had sex like at least 6months before I went out with her. I'm trying to reastablish this realationship between me and the mom. And I didn't intend to violate any rule I should have known better nut lost control.this happened like a month ago so I been stayen away from the mom sense then.I beeen left that house that night. I called the cops that night and she called the next day I had the principle see if there was a warent out for my arest he said the school said know.my grilfriend said no report was taken they just listened to the story and left.but o flet guilty for calling the cops besause the mom has a day care, but if you heard her sceam the way I did and saw what I saw anybody would have did it, well at least I think so.I realize now I betrade the trust.. ill wait to get it back I just don't know how yesterday I called her to see if I could pick up my clothes from her house and she was like a different person she was all polite and said hi,bye and even wasn't goining insane.I just want to keep it that way, I know I put myself at risk being with her but she's worth it that's why I don't want to leave her she's the only one who wrote me in jail she brang her mom her sister and my techers to my court date not even my family came so its like if she left I would just have myself, and I don't really want to be alone, and I saw her streesed one day and thouht I should keep my problems to myself but then it made things worse I tried to take a break and she was crying and thought it was because I didn't care about her after we wrked things out and I explained to her why I wanted to take a break she said she wants to be here with me no matteer what.I just want to fix what I broke not end things

If you love her the way you do then you should wait until she is 18. This way you don't have to worry about the cops being call whenever the mom goes through one of her moods.

It it painfully obvious that you have to find and get a relationship with yourself. You said if she's not in your life you'll feel alone. Instead it should be, you'll feel like your independent and confident. You are depending on someone else for happiness, and that is not healthy. Where do you live now? You need to get out on your own, because you need to prove to yourself you can do it for yourself.

I gota good realationship with myself.. im not sure if this is good or bad but out of no where the mom let me and my girlfriend hang out dose this mean she's tryna give me another chance??

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Originally Posted by i go 18dumby

i gota good realationship with my self..

This is not an insult because the truth is I would have said the same thing at your age but that comment is ridicules. You have been in trouble with the law, you have had to move into your girlfriends house, and you have no experience doing for yourself in the real world. To be honest, I'm not even sure if I can give you any advice other then you might have to just live life to learn. But that's sort of my point, when I keep saying you need to get out on your own and find your own independence. You've never done anything on your own, and no offense, but I don't know to many woman older then you that want to be with a guy that has to live in their own mother's basement. That might work when she's 16 but that's only because she doesn't know any better at that age and she's still stuck under her mother's roof.

Your relationship with yourself is dependent upon everybody but you, so how can you have one? You follow up telling us you have a good relationship with yourself by asking this question...

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Originally Posted by i go 18dumby

im not sure if this is good or bad but out of no where the mom let me and my girlfriend hang out dose this mean shes tryna give me another chance???

Your current situation is dependent upon the mother of your girlfriend. You can't honestly tell me you are independent.

Furthermore, given the history between her mother and you, why would you even get suckered into this again? Okay, love is an addiction and I understand that, but don't you think you'd prove to her mother your to be trusted by going out and getting a place of your own and job to support yourself or doing something that shows your independent and not waiting on either your girlfriend or her mother to make a decision for you?

That's becasuse I di a lot of stuff for myself I'm rentimg a room now I pay my own rent I'm saving for a car,etc... but I do understand what you mean

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Originally Posted by i go 18dumby

thats becasuse i di alot of stuff for my self im rentimg a room now i pay my own rent im saveing for a car,ect...but i do understand what you mean

Sweet. This is a great start.

Start!! I been paying rent every where I been sense I turned 18 the day of my 18th birthday my dad made me pay rent.I struggle everyday like most people but I could take care of myself