Lol no gold star for alty, it wasn't the answer he was searching for.

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Originally Posted by none12345

lol no gold star for alty, it wasnt the answer he was searching for.

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But I answered his question. :rolleyes:

This sucks! I've always wanted a gold star. :: pout, pout, pout:: :(

Maybe, the OP should run to the store tomorrow and get an eightball. His question will surely be answered then.

I just find his question so silly.

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

But I answered his question. :rolleyes:

This sucks! I've always wanted a gold star. :: pout, pout, pout:: :(

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apparently gold star = agree and you got tons of it =P he didn't give you one like promised!! :confused:

got to spread the rep =P

So people just want to make fun of me now. Nice.

Maybe you all think my posts are ridiculous, but I'm a guy in pain, and you're right I'm not making much sense. I guess I just want to hear something comforting.

I was not making fun of you. I do not think anybody was really making fun of you. The point is you were looking for comfort in an answer that really does not concern you anymore.

Maybe you finally got that point.

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Originally Posted by mogdor

So people just want to make fun of me now. Nice.

Maybe you all think my posts are ridiculous, but I'm a guy in pain, and you're right I'm not making much sense. I guess I just want to hear something comforting.

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I know we've all been through something similar. There is no point chasing after her anymore. The best way to get rid of the pain is to disappear from her life and don't contact her anymore. I guarantee that if you do that, it ll get easier slowly and you ll start to realize that she wasn't the best for you. We can't stress that anymore than we already have, you're the one causing yourself the pain, she isn't causing you any.

Ok. I'll try the comfort thing.

Let's say she's lying. The point of that would be to make you jealous, to hurt you. It's immature and shows she has no compassion. The other reason for lying would be that she wants you to leave her alone. Doesn't sound like someone I'd want to be with.

Let's say she was telling the truth. So, she's betraying her friend and jumping into something that will have profound effects on a young child. It's immature and shows she has no real idea of what she's doing. It would be a marriage I'd lay a good bet on that wouldn't survive.

In both scenarios, try to find comfort in the thought that you are seeing her in a different light, finding out what kind of person she is right now. Maybe you're really not losing all that much at all. Could be your gaining the freedom to be open to new and wonderful opportunities for yourself.

I wish I would say more to ease your pain. HUG : )

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Originally Posted by mogdor

So people just want to make fun of me now. Nice.

Maybe you all think my posts are ridiculous, but I'm a guy in pain, and you're right I'm not making much sense. I guess I just want to hear something comforting.

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We're not making fun of you. Do you realize what you're asking? Why you're asking?

We all understand your pain, we've all been there, done that, wrote the book. The fact is, whether she's lying or not, you won't heal until you leave her where she belongs, in the past.

No one can give you the answer you're looking for and none of us is willing to guess because we realize that the answer, in the long run, won't help you do what you have to do, move on.

I know you think we're being pig headed, not humoring you, not helping, but we're doing our best to give you the help that you really need and that is the help to move on.

Look around the site, you're not alone, many people are going through exactly the same thing you are. Maybe you can find some comfort talking to some of them because you're all in the same boat right now.

Do you understand?

Thanks for the kind words everyone. This is rough and I'm being emotional, so I apologize for being difficult and stubborn... I'll get my sanity back eventually.

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Originally Posted by mogdor

Thanks for the kind words everyone. This is rough and I'm being emotional, so I apologize for being difficult and stubborn.......I'll get my sanity back eventually.

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That is normal; you're hurting. As someone said earlier we've all been through this before. We're telling you what we know through experience, not just because we want you to "get over it". It will take time but you have to stop looking for 'signs and clues'.

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Originally Posted by mogdor

Thanks for the kind words everyone. This is rough and I'm being emotional, so I apologize for being difficult and stubborn.......I'll get my sanity back eventually.

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It might not seem like it now, but eventually the pain you're feeling will lessen, and lessen, and lessen, and then lessen some more. And I honestly do wish you the best of luck! You absolutely have my sympathies for the pain you're feeling and I honestly believe we are all here and willing to help you, if you want our help!

Best of luck!

Roxy

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Originally Posted by roxypox

It might not seem like it now, but eventually the pain you're feeling will lessen, and lessen, and lessen, and then lessen some more. And I honestly do wish you the best of luck! You absolutely have my sympathies for the pain you're feeling and I honestly believe we are all here and willing to help you, if you want our help!

Best of luck!

Roxy

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Thank you. I've had my share of relationships... but none of those break ups have affected me like this one has... it's a whole new level of pain that I've never known before. I think in the end this will be one of those experiences that will help me learn about myself and grow emotionally. In the meantime I'll try and take it like a man and tough it out!

I think it is very common to feel like this heartbreak is the worst we have ever had. Time heals all wounds and with time you will feel better.

Good luck to you.

Just take it day by day and know that what don't kill you only makes you stronger.

So after the smoke clears this experience will make you a stronger person.