Why don't you just be direct and ask him?

I think all the making out sessions and cuddling is confusing things and the two of you crossed the friend line.
So the question is where does it goes from here? Back to just being friends or more? Talk about it.

Also, I think you tried to make him jealous a little when you told him about the other guy and probably thought that would spark the beginning of something.

Just my two cents.

I can't ask him cause he uses the word friends a lot to me lol but I told him that I was going away to school and he kept going back to the subject asking:oh so are you going?when are you going?have you made up your mind?who are you going to live with?and stuff like that?

Don't say you can't ask him because if is your friend and this issue is on your mind--you should be able to have an open discussion with him.

What you need to do is stop making out and cuddling with him. No more crossing the lines then maybe the confusion would stop, maybe.

Again, my two cents.

He's obviously interested in you, but he might not be doing any of the sensitive things that you want.

But at the same time, it sounds like the two of you don't know each other too well.

The best thing to do is to talk more. Get to know each other more.

Like Liz said; I too think you should have a talk with him... I honestly can't say whether he is interested from the OP. so you should have a talk about the cuddling and the making out.. and try to define what the two of you are doing. B/c you have def. crossed a line.

And I agree with I wish: I to get the impression that the two of you might not know each other that well.

OK,we aalso can go for weeks without talking really or hang out and when I asked him about it he said that we are friends and we don't have to spend all the time together!
See that's what I meant when I said he confuses me lol

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ok,we aalso can go for weeks without talking really or hang out and when i asked him about it he said that we are friends and we dont have to spend all the time together!!
see thats what i ment when i said he confuses me lol

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It's not really that confusing, he's not as interested in you as you think.

I wish: had to spread the rep... but yeah, I think you're spot on.

OK so should I just move on?what do you think?

That just answers your question, he's only interested in you as a friend, so the cuddling and everything is just so he can get you into bed, friends with benefits never works, someone always gets hurt in the end.

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ok so should i just move on?what do you think?

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Yeah, move on and stop wasting your time with this guy.

He is interested in you. I also agree ask him if you both make out and cuddle can not see why be shy and ask him a question. Maybe he does not want a relationship with you just mess around.

And how does he leave you alone waiting for the bus? Lol

Move on sweetie! This isn't the guy for you. If he doesn't have the time to devote to you then he's not worth having you. Date around, there is plenty of time to meet your soul mate. Dating is supposed to be fun. I know its hard but wait for the guy your dating to call you, good things come to those who wait. Be patient and good luck

He really did it was after midnight and he said are you OK here?and I told him yeah I'm fine,so he said goodnight and just left lol

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he really did it was after midnight and he said r u ok here?and i told him yeah im fine,so he said goodnight and just left lol

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I don't think it's funny at all, if he cared for you even just as a friend, he would've waited with you.

Your threads were merged so the whole story can paint a very clear picture.

Now leave this guy alone, as you are wasting your time and not getting nothing but confusion in return.

He isn't friend material, let alone anything else.

I have been thinking about it,and the thing is,he didn't even pick up the phone and see if I arrived home safe and sound,and friends don't do that.also,we would go for days without talking,and that's when I call him.and I'm sure that the next time ill stop calling him he won't even bother to call and that's fine with me now,cause I really deserve someone better than a man who is treating me as a sex toy,plus,I can't live with the fact that I'm hanging out with someone who doesn't want to be around me.
So thank you all,you guys really opened up my eyes,and I know I made the right choice thanks to you.

Its sad when you realize stuff like that, but it really might be for the better in the long run. You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you and who shows genuine interest!

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The breakup was mutual,but I said some mean things that I regret.so,I texted him an apology saying that I know he doesn't want to see me,and it was honest,and he texted me saying:i prefer not to see you now.we agreed on stoping this thing, and the sooner the better,take care.
So I called him to make sure he forgave me and there are no hard feelings.so,he said he did,and how this is not the first time for him to deal with this kind of situation,that we are cool and he is fine and that we are friends,but we shouldn't see each other now.we even laughed a little,and I told him I will give him his space,and that he has my number if he feels ready to see me again,so,he said:yes,I do have your number and we are cool now and no one is mad at the other.
How can I set this thing right and win him back?how long should I wait before calling him?cause I feel like calling him.and I just don't know what to say.help me out please