I'm guessing you posted the question because you know something's wrong. Whatever his deal is (gay, medical problems, not attracted to you), it's probably not going to be any different 3 weeks from now.

I think you know already realized why he wants to take things slow. I understand that sometimes waiting is frustrating. If you want to be with him, then you have to agree on his terms. If you're in a hurry, you know already that it might push him away. As said, give it a time but don't waste your time waiting for him till he gets 2 doctoral degrees.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by ylaira

I think you know already realized why he wants to take things slow. i understand that sometimes waiting is frustrating. If you want to be with him, then you have to agree on his terms. If you're in a hurry, you know already that it might push him away. As said, give it a time but don't waste your time waiting for him till he gets 2 doctoral degrees.

---

He'll be done with school in like 3 or 4 weeks.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by Burtongirl10

He'll be done with school in like 3 or 4 weeks.

---

Then what? He'll have time for you?

Don't you think he's going to focus on getting a job and landing a career. Now that's harder than school- your on your own two feet now.

Sarah

Hopefully you can have sex after the celebration.

If you trust him, then just wait the 3 or four weeks. What question do you have if you trust him?

Why are people so effin rude?

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by Burtongirl10

Why are people so effin rude?

---

We're not rude. You just don't like hearing the truth.

You'll live blindly if you don't accept the truth or even tough criticism.

How do you expect to grow and gain life lessons if your in that mentality?

Sarah

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by mudweiser

We're not rude. You just don't like hearing the truth.

You'll live blindly if you don't accept the truth, even if it is hard.

Sarah

---

But you don't even know the situation. It's not the truth. Because I know the situation and I know the guy and I should never have come on here and asked this.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by Burtongirl10

Why are people so effin rude?

---

Yeah sometimes it gets on your nerve. I felt the same when I first got here. Specially Tal who comes too strong at times but you'll get used to it and he has a point. Earlier, I got into a spat with someone in Law Forum earlier. You post they answered based on what they think. But it's not you. Just always think that.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by Burtongirl10

But you dont even know the situation. It's not the truth. Because I know the situation and I know the guy and I should never have come on here and asked this.

---

We only know from what you told us.

If you know the situation so well, if you know the guy so well then you wouldn't have posted this thread to begin with.

Reality hurts sweetie, but isn't it better than living a lie?

Sarah

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by ylaira

Yeah sometimes it gets on your nerve. I felt the same when i first got here. Specially Tal who comes too strong at times but you'll get used to it and he has a point. Earlie, I got into a spat with someone in Law Forum earlier. You post they answered based on what they think. But it's not you. Just always think that.

---

But they don't know and I'm just blown away at the answers because they are not even close to the situation...

What is there that we don't know.

1- You and guy meet

2- You and guy flirt

3- Guy is too busy. Guy leaves picture

4- You still like guy

5- Guy comes back

6- Guy is still too busy

7- You wonder "hmm is he ready for a relationship?"

What am I missing here?

Sarah

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by mudweiser

What is there that we don't know.

1- You and guy meet

2- You and guy flirt

3- Guy is too busy. Guy leaves picture

4- You still like guy

5- Guy comes back

6- Guy is still too busy

7- You wonder "hmm is he ready for a relationship?"

What am I missing here?

Sarah

---

A hell of a lot. Because you aren't me, and you aren't him. And there's so much that he has said and done that I haven't listed. He's busy, but he still makes time for me. In fact he's going to take me out for lunch for my birthday before he works (its normaly unheard of for him to do anythng before he does to work at 2) and then he;s going to work till about 9 pm and he's going to meet up with me and my friends to celebrate my birthday. What he is saying is, until he has finished school and he's just looking for an internship... he wants to take it slow. And he wants sex, but he also wants to wait because it's better to wait for sex... it's better for a relationship and also because it would be too much of a distraction and he needs to focus on school in these last weeks that he is finishing up. And I've told him from day one that we are going to wait on sex.

You are the one who knows the guy, you have feelings for him and we only got a brief idea of him based on what you said. If you stated your situation on exactly how you meant, then you'll get a strong rational feedback. Just understand that everyday, people write here asking questions that they already know what's the answer, shining bright as the sun and just want to hear what they want. If you're replying, sometimes you're get a little carried away but can't directly say "You're so stupid! can't you see?" Just think that it's not you and maybe you're the 15th thread they read. They're just tired of repeating themselves.

So again give the guy a break and see how true his statement is of "Taking things slowly". If he doesn't run out of alibis, then there's something wrong that you can never fix.

Then maybe if you give more info. Well be able to help you. We're not mind readers here.

In my opinion: He's too busy. Big whoopty doop he's taking you out to lunch. Like it or not your not his first priority. You should back up and step out of the picture until he has his crap straight. Unless you like being someone's last option then go right ahead.

This is just like beating a dead horse.

Good luck to you,

Sarah

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by ylaira

You are the one who knows the guy, you have feelings for him and we only got a brief idea of him based on what you said. If you stated your situation on exactly how you meant, then you'll get a strong rational feedback. Just understand that everyday, people write here asking questions that they already know what's the answer, shining bright as the sun and just want to hear what they want. If you're replying, sometimes you're get a little carried away but can't directly say "You're so stupid! can't you see?" Just think that it's not you and maybe you're the 15th thread they read. they're just tired of repeating themselves.

---

Yes, I do know exactly what the asnwer is. I know exactly what he is saying, however I just wanted to see what other people would say and I'm sorry that I've been really defensive... I'm just very confused at the answers I'm getting because they are so far from the situation.

So again give the guy a break and see how true his statement is of "Taking things slowly". if he doesn't run out of alibis, then there's something wrong that you can never fix. Leave.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by mudweiser

Then maybe if you give more info. well be able to help you. We're not mind readers here.

In my opinion: He's too busy. Big whoopty doop he's taking you out to lunch. Like it or not your not his first priority. You should back up and step out of the picture until he has his crap straight. Unless you like being someone's last option then go right ahead.

This is just like beating a dead horse.

Good luck to ya,

Sarah

---

See the lunch thing means nothing to you because again you know nothing about this guy or the situation. Actually, I think you sound like a very bitter, hurt, unhappy person and you just like to take it out on other people.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by Burtongirl10

See the lunch thing means nothing to you because again you know nothing about this guy or the situation. Actually, I think you sound like a very bitter, hurt, unhappy person and you just like to take it out on other people.

---

Wow- your so insightful. I am very bitter and unhappy. That's why everyone dislikes me here- I'm actually the site's Debbie Downer. I'm just a mean spirited person.

::sigh::

Thanks for the reality check.

Sarah