There is just a thing called intuition, gut instinct. Men have it too I think. I would say your case is a classic example of a partner actively placing doubts into your head. That is not good. Ever. If you sit down and talk to him, explaining how it is making you feel, and if he still does not care, you must move on. I know from my most recent experience. It is not healthy, and it will eventually drive you mad.

No person who loves you, will ACTIVELY PLACE DOUBTS into your head, especially if they deem that it will jeopardize the relationship. NO WAY. It is a true sign as to how important the relationship and YOU are to him.

If there is no communication then it is hard on a relationship to grow. If there is no trust then the doubts will overshadow the relationship. If he is willing to allow his mate to hit on you, how committed can he be. If he is such a great guy why are you having these doubts and not talking about them. Take a step back and look at things for what they are without the sugar coating. Sorry all I see are red flags waving everywhere.

Thanks, I realsie that now - everything else has been sugar coated.

Time to take the sugar off. You need some serious talks here before you ever move forward with this guy. Sounds like he may need to grow up a little.

See my new thread, we talked...