I am so sorry I was out of the loop this weekend! I wish I was here to respond to your post... glad it worked out! I think you did the right thing, whether she is a friend, acquaintance, or carpool buddy... it is always nice to work it out, or at least be the bigger one and try! :) Have a grewat week carpooling!! :)

Good for you - hopefull yyou cleared the air. Maybe she was under stress as well and hopefully realizes she shouldn't take it out on you.

OH BOY have I been in your shoes, and you handled it perfectly. I would sit and wait and show up Monday like nothing has happened. But doesn't it make it hard to deal with someone like that:eek: You feel like you are walking on egg shells so they do not get mad at you (at least I did). Too bad you couldn't drive yourself, but I also understand a very limited budget!

GOOOOOOOD Luck!

Hello j_9:

You did good. How could anybody who looks like you, not?

excon

UPDATE!!

Well I told the control freak to take a hike. I finally got too tired of the manipulation, control and negativity.

Not only that, but when she stopped by my house on Friday with her 12 year old twins and proceeded to yell at my 4 year old!! Not once, but twice!!

That was the last straw. First, I don't yell at my kids. Second, who is she to yell at my kid. Third, who is she to yell at my kid when she is a guest in my house!!

All ties have been severed, well almost. I have to sit next to her in class, but that is now only 2 days a week. However, all communication is cut.

Well, just had to blow a little steam. Thanks for listening.

Just as well. With friends like that - who needs enemies!

She needed to hit the road--who needs her. :mad:

You DID NOT need her yelling at your kids. Errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr :mad:

Sounds like she just wants attention.

Yes, attention is exactly what she wants. You should see her in class. Major attention seeking behavior.ever has anything good to say to or about people, but will make copies of a disc that we need for the whole class at no charge. Just made them without people asking if they wanted them, and came to class and passed them out.

I know, no biggie right? Well, if you heard how she really talks about people behind their backs!

Okay, well, a little more steam has blown off! :rolleyes:

Makes you wonder what she says about you when you're not around, huh?

No, doesn't make me wonder. I am pretty sure I know, since she was pretty good saying it to my face too!!

Do you really have to sit next to her? I'm sure you don't want to. Will it affect you in class?

Im glad you give it to her though J_9. I know the type of person your talking about very well and they are infuriating. So horrible to people behind their backs but there best friends to their face. Ooooh that drives me mad!

Yes, Skell I have to sit next to her, actually for a couple of reasons. First the class is full, second.. we are in the front and the teacher is so soft spoken that I cannot hear her if I moved to the back.

It was funny today though. I did not ride with her today... I sent a rather hars e-mail to her last night. Please read on

"Something has been bothering me all night and I feel it is time I get it off
my chest. When we were standing in the hall waiting to do vitals, I was at
the end of the hall out of earshot and you said something to the effect:

Hey, Butthead, then I responded (because what you said did not register
immediately), then you said to the others waiting in the hall:

"See I told you she would answer to anything."

I then asked you what you said and you said:

"I said Hey Butthead, and you answered so I said I told them that you would answer to anything."

Well, apparently you think you are the only one who has feelings that get
hurt. Well, NEWSFLASH, you are not the only person with feelings, I have
them too, and you tend to get satisfaction out of hurting mine.

What you did today was embarrassing and totally humiliating. Not only to me but to you. I know you don't give a what others think of you, but I
care what others think of me.

You may think it is okay to berate and cut down your children like this, but
I for one do not appreciate you treating me like .

I too have feelings. And I am tired of being the bullseye in your target
for your condescending attitude. I really thought we were friends, but
friends do not treat friends like this. Friends are supportive and helpful,
not mean, cruel, and manipulative. Either you do not consider me a friend or
you don't know what the real meaning of the word is.

I feel like you think it is a game to see how many times you can hurt and
make fun of Janine without her getting mad at you. But when you get mad, I have holy hell to pay for it."

End of e-mail. Well, needless to say I drove myself today and when we got in class she sat next to me with her back turned to me. Again it made her look bad cause people asked me what her problem was "this time."

I understand that what she said (I quoted in the e-mail) can sound like a joke to some, but this has been ongoing for several months now.

The way I see it is that she is digging her own grave and actually making me look good.

Well, I am in a new carpool with people who are mentally and emotionally healthy, participate in study groups and really care about one another. I can't wait for the first real study group on Friday!!

Good on J_9. She will get hers. People like her always do.

What an immature piece of work she is too.

I really hope she doesn't get a job doing anything important in the future.

Nut case No.1 there.

Good to see you have some new friends too.

It's good you left her carpool. She needs to be surrounded by knuckleheads who think like she does because she will never comprehend a genuine relationship with trust, integrity and above all maturity.

"Akuna Matata" leave your past behind...

Hey, got the new study group at my house tonight. They are all really great gals, no swearing, no gossiping, just all want to get through school together!!

Hubby came home from work last night and said I looked so relaxed!!

Duh! No more childish crap to deal with!!

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Skell agrees: Relaxed. Sounds nice. Something I haven't felt in a while! Have to find a new study group myself!

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You are welcome to come join us Skell!!

Sorry I have been ot of the loop again for awhile, but I wanted to say... you don't realize what you have until it is gone, whether it is good or BAD. You didn't realize just HOW toxic she was until you left her in the dust... good for you! ANd good for hubby for noticing how good you looked, relaxed and all!

Yes, Yelo, TOXIC is the exact word ;). Other student in the class are just now noticing it.

I have had comments made to me about how happy they were that I stood up and got out rather than being controlled.

She, on the other hand, is, well, I can't say anything bad, I am the bigger person here!! :D

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Originally Posted by J_9

She, on the other hand, is, well, I can't say anything bad, I am the bigger person here!!!!!!!! :D

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Haha... GREAT COMMENT!! Very Cute! :D

"Time wounds all heels"