And I just want to clarify. I don't think this lady has real big problems. But by her own admission she is low in confidence and doesn't appear to love herself.
Talking to someone may just helpe her realise that she is a wonderful and beautiful person.
Im not saying she should book herself into a clininc and undergo complete pshyciatric review.
Just a chat to someone who may be able to offer some help.
It doesn't even need to be a therapist. Maybe a preist even.

Hedieh, Came here looking for guidance and all she got was a bunch of people arguing back and forth. I have been on this site for such a long time and it only seems to happen on a rarity, but it seems to be happening a lot now. Like J9 said many times, lets get back to giving this lady guidance. If she did not already take off because of this.

Here is a copy of my original post.

You know what. It is natural for a man to look at other women. It is natural for woman to look at other man. It is how we as individuals deal with seeing this. Some may deny, others do not. What you need to remember is that he is with you. No one else. Should that not make you secure enough, nothing will. One of the things that my wife and I went through was councelling before getting married. It is required by the catholic church and we were both giving questions about each other, and how we feel about certain situations and one of the questions was whether you think your mate would be jealous if him or her saw you looking at somebody else. It is a normal reaction but do not make a mountain at of a mole hill. Remember looking is so much different then touching. Remember this. The most important number one thing to remember is he is with you and NOBODY ELSE.

Maybe this thread should be put to rest until the orginator as something new to say? It seems that now the debate is over the science of psychology, the cost of psychologists, general bickering.

It seems that one member has sabatoged this thread, and by continually replying to this member, the thread has lost it's focus. I suggest no more contributions/replies be made to the one member's posts. Clearly something is not sinking in there, and everyone is just digging themselves into a deeper hole.

J_9, I actually know about Maslow too. I was an engineering major, but I took intro psych and had to read Maslow. But many people don't know that if they've never heard of Maslow. Anyway, I wasn't saying you were wrong.

My point was just not to even acknowledge what one member is posting. No need too. It's not getting anywhere and this thread is totally convaluted.

I am with you Cali.

Oh god how old are you?